Regumika said:
I believe you misunderstood me. The behavior is taught by the parents (how to love) not the concept (what love is). If I'm following your reasoning though, you are saying that by being treated abusively growing up (learned as love) then destroying the world once they have grown up means that they love the world (since that's how their parents did it), right?
Parents love me by hitting my face.
If I kill someone, I love them. If I destroy the world, I love the world.
Which is... not true. Well shoot, going by that logic, serial killers are the most loving people on the planet.
No, I think it's you who is misunderstanding me.
I'm not stating that these people know what love is, it's just that everyone has their own idea of what love is and that this differs between individuals and depends on how they have grown up.
Obviously serial killers and the like don't know how to love. They were taught something different than real love, they were taught something that they think is love and act on that because that is their reality.
Essentially, they have literally been taught wrong. What they believe is love is not love. And in some ways they know that, but they don't know what it really is and don't know how to correct that.
It's sort of like if I said I wanted "the perfect cake". The idea me and you have of "the perfect cake" is different. So if I'm having a party and you bring your idea of that cake, it might be nothing as I had pictured it.
But someone else may not even know what a cake is, so they bring a Pancake, or maybe they bring a screwdriver. And the dude bringing the screwdriver might know it's not really a "cake", but he doesn't know what else to bring because he doesn't understand the situation at all. He would need someone to show him what a cake is, and for someone to give him a piece of cake so he can taste it himself, before he understands.
Regumika said:
As I said, how to love and knowing what love is are different.
I'm not disagreeing with you there, I'm trying to indicate something else. You also stated that all people naturally know what love is. I disagreed because I don't believe it's something that we're all just born with. It's something we have to learn, and we all learn different things and we learn them differently.
Regumika said:
The reason serial killers are serial killers (for those that are raised abusively) behave this way because they never got the love that they know they want to receive and they are taking out this bottled up pain on others.
Yeah.... Well, that's a bit too simplistic of an explanation.
You're not really asking the hard questions. What makes the bottled up pain come out as murder? How does pain and not getting love turn into murder?
If you think about, possibly study some psychology, I think you'll find my explanation sums up the situation a lot better.
Regumika said:
Your animal examples are not talking about the same things either. Animals becomes vicious after being abused because they are trying to protect themselves (they wouldn't have a need to protect themselves if they thought the abuse was good - love). They become loving (notice it's loving) when someone comes along and show that they won't abuse. It's a matter of trust, not a matter of love. Lions are aggressive because they don't know who to trust. You don't see wild lions hunt their own (unless of a different group), but it's not about love, it's about protecting their own tribe from outside sources that you can't trust.
I think we're looking at this very differently.
You're looking at 'love' as some sort of metaphysical concept, something not related to physical instincts, learned traits, and etc.
If you're bent on that sort of definition... then sure, nothing I've said is true or applicable. However, I would completely disagree with such metaphysical properties. You can't prove a metaphysical existence to anything and there is no real argument to be had there.
Disregarding metaphysics:
If you'd notice, I pointed out that abuse in the form of ignorance and apathy leads to meak and quiet creatures. But if, as you say, they are only trying to fend for their lives then it is those very creatures whom must be the loudest and most violent, to survive and so as to get food and attention, because no one is giving it to them. They have been ignored so they should be lashing out at everything.
Likewise, a creatures abused violently should learn only to be quiet and meek, so as not to disturb or get attention. To get the attention they don't want to get. They would be quiet so as to go about their lives without harm. But no, instead they usually do the opposite, they act violently as they have been taught. They are indeed defending themselves, but from what? These creatures, if free, will often lash out at people or other creatures not because the others are an actual threat but simply because they are there - because the abused animal wishes to do harm to others as it has been done to them.
This is the hidden reality of the situation that we call 'love', behind all the metaphysics, behind all the apparent feelings we have, and behind all of the ways in which we feel them.
Regumika said:
Which none of the above (including yours) talks about how any of know don't know what love is, they all know what love is and what love isn't.
No, I very specifically pointed out how serial killers don't know what love is because they weren't taught love, they weren't given love, and they only learned abuse.
I used animals as another example to demonstrate this point. Those animals aren't loving because they hadn't received or seen love before.
They understand their own concepts of what love is, twisted and mutilated, and they probably know it is hate, too, but this is exactly the problem. To them they learn that love is hate, that they are the same thing.
Regumika said:
Let's use gangs for example. Gangs are violent, right? Yet they protect each other of the same gang like family - sometimes with their life. They love their gang family and treat them different than those outside. Just because they lie and steal, kill and are violent, doesn't mean they don't know what love is.
You're using an entirely different scenario now.
Gangs are faced with reality in a different situation. They feel abuse from the external world so they find love within their own gang as the only way to seek it. The only way they feel they are cared for. The violence and actions on the external world are not externalized through thoughts of love, but actual hate and actual survival. Knowing love doesn't somehow overcome your environmental circumstances. You still have to survive, love doesn't feed you. It doesn't protect you from bullets, either.
Just because something knows what love is doesn't mean that they don't still understand hate and survival. Likewise, just because something shows hate and survival does not necessarily mean they don't know how to love or what love is. I even pointed out how love can overcome instincts. So someone can overcome their instincts for survival to protect those they love.
You'll also notice that gangs are not generally destructive just to destroy. As a whole they are destructive only for purposes of personal gain and survival. They are acting against the world in ways to protect themselves, to provide for themselves, and essentially just to survive in harsh circumstances.
I'll also point out that there is also tons of non-love in gangs, so we shouldn't be looking at this superficially. The relationships there are very complicated. People ratting each other out to save themselves, in-gang violence, pressure and force to stay, peer pressure, scapegoating, Etc. Things which contradict this noted 'love' within gangs.
Inevitably someone can be a very violent person and still know what love is, even if he never shows any.
We should not confuse circumstances and survival with knowing or not knowing love.