[align=justify][align=justify][align=justify][align=justify]OK, so to start with, I’m 21, male and live in the UK. This is the first time I’ve posted on here, although I have been reading posts for quite a while.
So to get straight to the point, I am rubbish when it comes to girls/no girls are interested in me, and it’s driving me crazy. I’ve never had a girlfriend but I really want to experience a sexual relationship, mainly because I would love to have some intimacy in my life, as it is currently lacking, and for companionship. I know that I won’t find the perfect person first time, and that isn’t what I’m asking for. I like the freedom of being single (2am bike rides FTW), but I’d be much, much happier if I had been in a relationship before and decided that I’d rather be single, or I don't mind sacrificing a bit of freedom for a relationship.
I am fairly quiet usually but I don’t think I’m ugly (decide for yourself - https://www.facebook.com/media/set/...100001251303759&type=3&viewas=100000686899395 ), although I do sometimes when I randomly see myself in reflections… Generally I just think that I look very young for my age (and a lot of other people say the same), which seems to give me a severe disadvantage with girls. For example, how many 20 year old girls (women, really), would want to go out with a guy who looks 16, without treating me like a 12 year old? I feel like extreme friend-zone material. From my own anecdotal evidence, just a handful of 14-15 year olds are possibly attracted to me.
It also scares me because I have left uni now, after 3 years, and I met and lived around a lot of people my own age, but I’m sure that at home (now), and when I move somewhere else and have a job, it’ll take even longer to find a girl who likes me (in that way). I often think to myself that I may as well give up and try again in 10 years. It isn’t friends I’m worried about though, I can make friends fairly easily (which also tells me that I must have a likeable personality), and apart from the girl thing, I’m not too worried about moving somewhere else. I don’t want to live in my parent’s house my whole life. On a similar note, I really relied on studying, living on campus and going to the college bar to support my social life at uni. Off campus, I really couldn’t stand nightclubs or crowded pubs, but I don’t mind going to quieter places, I just don’t know where I could meet girls that may be interested in me. In terms of my interests, I’m interested in nature conservation, and have volunteered and am volunteering with local conservation organisations, but most of the volunteers are much older than me. I am applying for part time retail jobs to bring in some money, and I’m hoping that should help me mix with younger people again. I do volunteer in a charity shop, but the social limitations are obvious. A few of my friends (male and female) have said things like "we need to get you a girlfriend", "Why do you think you can't get a girlfriend?" etc, but the truth is that no girls are interested in me, and I feel like I have no choice about it.
So to conclude, are girls not interested in me just because I look young (and I may have to wait years and years), or because I'm ugly (doubt it) or what? Feel free to ask anything else, it would seem like more of a rant if I continue writing here. I’m not really very negative in general, it’s just this topic that drives me crazy, sometimes I feel like complete crap if left to think about it for more than 15 minutes…
So to get straight to the point, I am rubbish when it comes to girls/no girls are interested in me, and it’s driving me crazy. I’ve never had a girlfriend but I really want to experience a sexual relationship, mainly because I would love to have some intimacy in my life, as it is currently lacking, and for companionship. I know that I won’t find the perfect person first time, and that isn’t what I’m asking for. I like the freedom of being single (2am bike rides FTW), but I’d be much, much happier if I had been in a relationship before and decided that I’d rather be single, or I don't mind sacrificing a bit of freedom for a relationship.
I am fairly quiet usually but I don’t think I’m ugly (decide for yourself - https://www.facebook.com/media/set/...100001251303759&type=3&viewas=100000686899395 ), although I do sometimes when I randomly see myself in reflections… Generally I just think that I look very young for my age (and a lot of other people say the same), which seems to give me a severe disadvantage with girls. For example, how many 20 year old girls (women, really), would want to go out with a guy who looks 16, without treating me like a 12 year old? I feel like extreme friend-zone material. From my own anecdotal evidence, just a handful of 14-15 year olds are possibly attracted to me.
It also scares me because I have left uni now, after 3 years, and I met and lived around a lot of people my own age, but I’m sure that at home (now), and when I move somewhere else and have a job, it’ll take even longer to find a girl who likes me (in that way). I often think to myself that I may as well give up and try again in 10 years. It isn’t friends I’m worried about though, I can make friends fairly easily (which also tells me that I must have a likeable personality), and apart from the girl thing, I’m not too worried about moving somewhere else. I don’t want to live in my parent’s house my whole life. On a similar note, I really relied on studying, living on campus and going to the college bar to support my social life at uni. Off campus, I really couldn’t stand nightclubs or crowded pubs, but I don’t mind going to quieter places, I just don’t know where I could meet girls that may be interested in me. In terms of my interests, I’m interested in nature conservation, and have volunteered and am volunteering with local conservation organisations, but most of the volunteers are much older than me. I am applying for part time retail jobs to bring in some money, and I’m hoping that should help me mix with younger people again. I do volunteer in a charity shop, but the social limitations are obvious. A few of my friends (male and female) have said things like "we need to get you a girlfriend", "Why do you think you can't get a girlfriend?" etc, but the truth is that no girls are interested in me, and I feel like I have no choice about it.
So to conclude, are girls not interested in me just because I look young (and I may have to wait years and years), or because I'm ugly (doubt it) or what? Feel free to ask anything else, it would seem like more of a rant if I continue writing here. I’m not really very negative in general, it’s just this topic that drives me crazy, sometimes I feel like complete crap if left to think about it for more than 15 minutes…