I want to apologise, since I've obviously offended people. I didn't set out to do so, I've obviously just made a real mess of the point I was trying to make. I don't dislike anyone BECAUSE they're attractive or successful, that wouldn't make sense to me. A male person I know was/still is distressed, angry and bitter since , according to his view of things, women only like certain kinds of men - I've tried to point out to him that not all of us females like these men thrust at us by the media, and that some of us are open-minded, and willing to talk to any guy, even if he doesn't fit into (what we're told) are society's norms. I guess when I wrote the last message I had that in mind, that I'd been trying to reassure him. Also, I'm very depressed, but that's clearly no excuse to upset and anger people, even if inadvertently. Isn't it amazing how you can put yourself across so badly, when in fact, you're not a bad person? Don't worry, I won't be doing it again. Also, to be clear, I'm not jealous of people who are successful, I didn't say that, someone else has attributed that (wrongly) to me. Anyway success, like attractiveness, is subjective. I AM jealous of people who are healthy, however, since I am not. I guess I struggle with being in pain, but of course that's no-one here's fault. So I sincerely apologise again for clumsily trying(hoping) to make someone else feel better. Em.
Additional - re. my apology. I don't know what's happened to the first part of my message, so with that missing everything sounds even worse, out of context. I can't believe I got this wrong, but some of these responses are confusing. Did I really try to reassure someone here, and end up being attacked by them? It's like a bad joke, this! All I hear from the guys in our lupus therapy/social group is "Oh no, why do women always like B.Pitt, R.Gosling etc? Why don't they give the rest of us a chance?" Have I really, honestly failed to get across that some of us are not like that? I used to be good at English and writing, God, obviously I'm completely hopeless now. I can't believe I've stopped being able to function, I didn't know it was this bad, I can only re-iterate that you've got me wrong. I was only trying to say to the guy not to be down, 'cos there are women who won't judge him for how he looks. Thats why I tried to emphasise that all these types we're told to like, aren't necessarily likeable. Anyway, I give up, my hands hurt, sorry again, I meant no harm. I think culturally people have different ways of speaking, and maybe that's a factor here. Perhaps you've read it as something evil, when it's just a generalism. God bless America. Em.
♥ *hugs for all who think they are not good-looking* <-- this hug is coz you really do look good.. 
