angel_in_view
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Hey everyone. I'm sorry if that subject sounds really odd, but that's the situation i'm witnessing right now.
A really good friend of mine w/whom i've been friends with for almost 15 yrs is going through this. She hadn't dated for several years. She found a guy who was local. She liked that bc months b4 she'd had a failed long dist. relationship. She met the local guy in person the same day & hit it off immediately w/him. After a month of seeing eachother, his job transferred him to a town that's 4 hours away. Its been 7 months now and she's seen him 3 times....yes, THREE. Turns out, he's not as great as she thought he was. He kept a lot of things from her that I think she should have been told about from the jump(several kids w/several women AND he was seeing one of the mothers when he met her). She's been asking for opinions and I've told her that in the end, it has to be HER decision as to what she's gonna do. However, if it were ME, I'd cut loses and just go on. What blows my mind is that she now admits that she feels like such a fool bc she thought this guy was gonna be her "forever" and now she doesn't even recognize him bc she's found out so much that she doesn't like. BUT even after saying that, she's still willing to see him. When I asked her why, she said, "Well, there's nothing else out there...so I may as well." :club: SERIOUSLY?!? I was just flabbergasted @ this comment. When I said he was a time waster, she got snippy and said that I have found my husband so I didn't understand. I told her that while it may be true that I don't understand how dating goes these days(bc I've been married for 7 yrs), I have been hurt before and I DO KNOW that sitting around waiting for HIM TO ACT RIGHT while he's out there doing whatever is NOT the thing to do. Has anyone else gone through this or knows someone who is?
A really good friend of mine w/whom i've been friends with for almost 15 yrs is going through this. She hadn't dated for several years. She found a guy who was local. She liked that bc months b4 she'd had a failed long dist. relationship. She met the local guy in person the same day & hit it off immediately w/him. After a month of seeing eachother, his job transferred him to a town that's 4 hours away. Its been 7 months now and she's seen him 3 times....yes, THREE. Turns out, he's not as great as she thought he was. He kept a lot of things from her that I think she should have been told about from the jump(several kids w/several women AND he was seeing one of the mothers when he met her). She's been asking for opinions and I've told her that in the end, it has to be HER decision as to what she's gonna do. However, if it were ME, I'd cut loses and just go on. What blows my mind is that she now admits that she feels like such a fool bc she thought this guy was gonna be her "forever" and now she doesn't even recognize him bc she's found out so much that she doesn't like. BUT even after saying that, she's still willing to see him. When I asked her why, she said, "Well, there's nothing else out there...so I may as well." :club: SERIOUSLY?!? I was just flabbergasted @ this comment. When I said he was a time waster, she got snippy and said that I have found my husband so I didn't understand. I told her that while it may be true that I don't understand how dating goes these days(bc I've been married for 7 yrs), I have been hurt before and I DO KNOW that sitting around waiting for HIM TO ACT RIGHT while he's out there doing whatever is NOT the thing to do. Has anyone else gone through this or knows someone who is?