Horrible Loneliness!

[CrazyGuy123]

So i come from a country called Denmark and i am a very lonely person...

i am a young male(18 years old) and it pains me to say i didnt have a childhood.

i just had to share my story because i dont have anybody else in this world to give me an ear or talk to me and i just couldnt bear having to hold on to this pain of mine for much longer.

i am a guy who wants friends badly man. i am considered to be a happy guy by my family, but i am depressed and cry alot just before i sleep.

Life is horrible for me i started High School thinking i was going to get friends and then i just started Uni thinking i was going to get friends....
Neither happened...

i dont know what it is about me not getting any friends or why i dont have no contacts in my phone or a facebook.

i stay at home 100% in my spare time i never get invited or ever had a girlfriend.

this honeysuckle is sad as fresia i can always hear peopl talking and laughing while i am locked in my own room...
and when i do go and talk to these people they ask me "Do you have any friends"-which kills me inside every time.

i tried everything joining a basketball team,karate,boxing and more, but i was always that guy at the back of the bus staring out of the window.

ive givin up on making friends.....ive asked so many sites "what to do", which i tried and they all failed miserably, one site told me "You have to take the first step" i have taking multiple steps and not one of those steps has ever worked.

I just started at Machine Engineering at Denmarks Technical University, i really hoped i would have one of those magical moments where u meet a guy and just clicked right away when i started at this school(Like they do in movies) which never came to be happened. i sat by this guy in a class lecture and he moved away from me. now i am left without any one to talk to in a room full of 100 people again and i have to stress over this hard ass homework ALONE....

Also what makes my life horrible is knowing that my siblings got real social lifes and are happy.

I am only 18 and feel like my life is over, been through this for 5 years now.

 

[hsp]

i am a guy who wants friends badly man. i am considered to be a happy guy by my family

Life is horrible for me i started High School thinking i was going to get friends and then i just started Uni thinking i was going to get friends....

i dont know what it is about me not getting any friends or why i dont have no contacts in my phone or a facebook.

i stay at home 100% in my spare time i never get invited or ever had a girlfriend.

this honeysuckle is sad as fresia i can always hear peopl talking and laughing while i am locked in my own room...
and when i do go and talk to these people they ask me "Do you have any friends"-which kills me inside every time.

i sat by this guy in a class lecture and he moved away from me. now i am left without any one to talk to in a room full of 100 people again and i have to stress over this hard ass homework ALONE....

Also what makes my life horrible is knowing that my siblings got real social lifes and are happy.

Hi,
I am 25 and can relate to all of the above. I've been there.. Sitting alone in Uni lectures, staying at home in my my spare time..

I can't really offer any advice as my life isn't really much different now.. All I can say is, focus on your studies, hobbies and aim high. You sound like an intelligent guy, don't let your social situation get you down too much.

PM me anytime.

 

[CrazyGuy123]

i am a guy who wants friends badly man. i am considered to be a happy guy by my family

Life is horrible for me i started High School thinking i was going to get friends and then i just started Uni thinking i was going to get friends....

i dont know what it is about me not getting any friends or why i dont have no contacts in my phone or a facebook.

i stay at home 100% in my spare time i never get invited or ever had a girlfriend.

this honeysuckle is sad as fresia i can always hear peopl talking and laughing while i am locked in my own room...
and when i do go and talk to these people they ask me "Do you have any friends"-which kills me inside every time.

i sat by this guy in a class lecture and he moved away from me. now i am left without any one to talk to in a room full of 100 people again and i have to stress over this hard ass homework ALONE....

Also what makes my life horrible is knowing that my siblings got real social lifes and are happy.

Hi,
I am 25 and can relate to all of the above. I've been there.. Sitting alone in Uni lectures, staying at home in my my spare time..

I can't really offer any advice as my life isn't really much different now.. All I can say is, focus on your studies, hobbies and aim high. You sound like an intelligent guy, don't let your social situation get you down too much.

PM me anytime.

Thanks man!

needed to share my experience of this.

 

[reloadlife23]

i am a guy who wants friends badly man. i am considered to be a happy guy by my family

Life is horrible for me i started High School thinking i was going to get friends and then i just started Uni thinking i was going to get friends....

i dont know what it is about me not getting any friends or why i dont have no contacts in my phone or a facebook.

i stay at home 100% in my spare time i never get invited or ever had a girlfriend.

this honeysuckle is sad as fresia i can always hear peopl talking and laughing while i am locked in my own room...
and when i do go and talk to these people they ask me "Do you have any friends"-which kills me inside every time.

i sat by this guy in a class lecture and he moved away from me. now i am left without any one to talk to in a room full of 100 people again and i have to stress over this hard ass homework ALONE....

Also what makes my life horrible is knowing that my siblings got real social lifes and are happy.

Hi,
I am 25 and can relate to all of the above. I've been there.. Sitting alone in Uni lectures, staying at home in my my spare time..

I can't really offer any advice as my life isn't really much different now.. All I can say is, focus on your studies, hobbies and aim high. You sound like an intelligent guy, don't let your social situation get you down too much.

PM me anytime.

Thanks man!

needed to share my experience of this.

Stop feeling sorry for youself, there are people in painful relationship, liars and cheaters and many have diseases. Consider yourself lucky.

One day you will meet your waterloo and wished you were back in your room watching all those "happy people". LoL
Be happy you are well.

 

[Grackle]

I have never found it helpful being told to stop feeling sorry for myself.... or to stop being depressed, or to just be happy.

 

[CrazyGuy123]

i am a guy who wants friends badly man. i am considered to be a happy guy by my family

Life is horrible for me i started High School thinking i was going to get friends and then i just started Uni thinking i was going to get friends....

i dont know what it is about me not getting any friends or why i dont have no contacts in my phone or a facebook.

i stay at home 100% in my spare time i never get invited or ever had a girlfriend.

this honeysuckle is sad as fresia i can always hear peopl talking and laughing while i am locked in my own room...
and when i do go and talk to these people they ask me "Do you have any friends"-which kills me inside every time.

i sat by this guy in a class lecture and he moved away from me. now i am left without any one to talk to in a room full of 100 people again and i have to stress over this hard ass homework ALONE....

Also what makes my life horrible is knowing that my siblings got real social lifes and are happy.

Hi,
I am 25 and can relate to all of the above. I've been there.. Sitting alone in Uni lectures, staying at home in my my spare time..

I can't really offer any advice as my life isn't really much different now.. All I can say is, focus on your studies, hobbies and aim high. You sound like an intelligent guy, don't let your social situation get you down too much.

PM me anytime.

Thanks man!

needed to share my experience of this.

Stop feeling sorry for youself, there are people in painful relationship, liars and cheaters and many have diseases. Consider yourself lucky.

One day you will meet your waterloo and wished you were back in your room watching all those "happy people". LoL
Be happy you are well.

its very easy for u to say "Be Happy".

You dont knoww what i have to deal with on a daily basis!

Going to Uni and then sitting at the back off the class staring and seeing people smiling and having a good time while i dont even have nobody to talk to. and then coming home and being looked down upon by my own SMALLER siblings!

is that what i gotta be happy about?

 

[ladyforsaken]

Do you try talking to other people around you? Excluding the guy who moved away from you. Do you smile at others and try to be pleasant? Sometimes people move away from what they feel negative.

I always thought you go to school really with the purpose to study and focus and making friendships comes 2nd. If it happens, it happens. If it doesn't then screw it, just go with the first priority of you being there in the first place.

Maybe you're like those people who really depend on social interaction to survive, then, in that case, you have to work on getting that social interaction, it won't just come to you. You know what I mean?

 

[CrazyGuy123]

Do you try talking to other people around you? Excluding the guy who moved away from you. Do you smile at others and try to be pleasant? Sometimes people move away from what they feel negative.

I always thought you go to school really with the purpose to study and focus and making friendships comes 2nd. If it happens, it happens. If it doesn't then screw it, just go with the first priority of you being there in the first place.

Maybe you're like those people who really depend on social interaction to survive, then, in that case, you have to work on getting that social interaction, it won't just come to you. You know what I mean?

Bro i Smile all the time! nobody knows that i am unhappy! i talked to 10 diffrent people in my class and none of them wanted to be friends! ive done it so many times man that i just cant keep on doing this anymore...

Yeah School is for studying, but what happens when u have to give back a obiligatory GROUP assignment and nobody wants to be in the same group as you? we got Group Work every day man!

 

[ladyforsaken]

Yucks I dislike group work. :\

Sorry, I kinda picture it all out and I get what you're saying. It's not easy making friends when people around you are so snobbish. I'm not trying to dishearten you but I'm really bad at giving advice on how to make friends because I ace at being a solo all the time. I kinda move away from socialising a lot... at work.

But I realise that even when I do that.. there are times when there's someone out of the 100 of colleagues I have who would still come by my desk and talk to me because they don't care who or what I'm like. What I'm trying to say is, don't give up, but don't expect too much. There's a lot of people you'll come to meet in uni, and I really hope that at least a couple of them will want to be your friend.

As for the group work, what I always end up doing when I was in school, is to look for the leftovers and just join them by default. It feels meh, but you just push yourself to get through it. And who knows, you could make a friend or two out of that. I wish you all the best. Sorry I don't have better advice on this. :\

 

[reloadlife23]

I have never found it helpful being told to stop feeling sorry for myself.... or to stop being depressed, or to just be happy.

Well you are looking at one right now.
I bear the pain. Pain is not bad, it can lead you to God.
It has with me. Peace from having a relationship with God beats having one with people, it offers peace of mind.

 

[Grackle]

I have never found it helpful being told to stop feeling sorry for myself.... or to stop being depressed, or to just be happy.

Well you are looking at one right now.
I bear the pain. Pain is not bad, it can lead you to God.
It has with me. Peace from having a relationship with God beats having one with people, it offers peace of mind.

I agree that God would be the better choice of friends.
Also, i admire your attitude towards pain and I'm wondering if you think 'bearing' is the same as 'accepting'

 

[onedepressedmom]

So i come from a country called Denmark and i am a very lonely person...

i am a young male(18 years old) and it pains me to say i didnt have a childhood.

i just had to share my story because i dont have anybody else in this world to give me an ear or talk to me and i just couldnt bear having to hold on to this pain of mine for much longer.

i am a guy who wants friends badly man. i am considered to be a happy guy by my family, but i am depressed and cry alot just before i sleep.

Life is horrible for me i started High School thinking i was going to get friends and then i just started Uni thinking i was going to get friends....
Neither happened...

i dont know what it is about me not getting any friends or why i dont have no contacts in my phone or a facebook.

i stay at home 100% in my spare time i never get invited or ever had a girlfriend.

this honeysuckle is sad as fresia i can always hear peopl talking and laughing while i am locked in my own room...
and when i do go and talk to these people they ask me "Do you have any friends"-which kills me inside every time.

i tried everything joining a basketball team,karate,boxing and more, but i was always that guy at the back of the bus staring out of the window.

ive givin up on making friends.....ive asked so many sites "what to do", which i tried and they all failed miserably, one site told me "You have to take the first step" i have taking multiple steps and not one of those steps has ever worked.

I just started at Machine Engineering at Denmarks Technical University, i really hoped i would have one of those magical moments where u meet a guy and just clicked right away when i started at this school(Like they do in movies) which never came to be happened. i sat by this guy in a class lecture and he moved away from me. now i am left without any one to talk to in a room full of 100 people again and i have to stress over this hard ass homework ALONE....

Also what makes my life horrible is knowing that my siblings got real social lifes and are happy.

I am only 18 and feel like my life is over, been through this for 5 years now.

Maybe you just need to leave the area and start over again. I tell people that all the time when they seem like they are in a rut and life is boring. Maybe even consider going on vacation to a place you would consider moving too and check it out first. Wishing you all the best!

 

[FreedomFromLiberty]

Stop feeling sorry for youself, there are people in painful relationship, liars and cheaters and many have diseases. Consider yourself lucky.

One day you will meet your waterloo and wished you were back in your room watching all those "happy people". LoL
Be happy you are well.

Much easier said than done.

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Well you are looking at one right now.
I bear the pain. Pain is not bad, it can lead you to God.
It has with me. Peace from having a relationship with God beats having one with people, it offers peace of mind.

Why are you on this site then?

Seems like a contradiction to me to claim that you are happy and have the peace of God AND be on a website dedicated to loneliness. But that's just me.

 

[ventura23]

Stop feeling sorry for youself, there are people in painful relationship, liars and cheaters and many have diseases. Consider yourself lucky.

One day you will meet your waterloo and wished you were back in your room watching all those "happy people". LoL
Be happy you are well.

Much easier said than done.

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Well you are looking at one right now.
I bear the pain. Pain is not bad, it can lead you to God.
It has with me. Peace from having a relationship with God beats having one with people, it offers peace of mind.

Why are you on this site then?

Seems like a contradiction to me to claim that you are happy and have the peace of God AND be on a website dedicated to loneliness. But that's just me.

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Stop feeling sorry for youself, there are people in painful relationship, liars and cheaters and many have diseases. Consider yourself lucky.

One day you will meet your waterloo and wished you were back in your room watching all those "happy people". LoL
Be happy you are well.

Much easier said than done.

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Well you are looking at one right now.
I bear the pain. Pain is not bad, it can lead you to God.
It has with me. Peace from having a relationship with God beats having one with people, it offers peace of mind.

Why are you on this site then?

Seems like a contradiction to me to claim that you are happy and have the peace of God

AND be on a website dedicated to loneliness. But that's just me.


just trying to help. Feeling for ourselved makes matters worse, it feeds it.

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[FreedomFromLiberty]

just trying to help. Feeling for ourselved makes matters worse, it feeds it.

I can dig that. I will agree that there is a fine line between acknowledging and understanding your problems (which is good) and dwelling in your problems (which is bad).