Despicable Me said:
Bob Lee said:
Whats more interesting that to be accepted we have to dumb down ourselves and take on this different persona just to be able to mingle with society. - I refuse!
I would rather accept a life of seclusion, than to change for a social order that's not willing to change either!
We seem to be giving two completely different suggestions.
Why do you refuse to "dumb down" to be a part of society? What have you ever gotten from being 'different'?
I just read your profile and it seems me and you share quite a few similarities, but as I said in my post above, what good has being like this ever done for me? You suggest that being alone is a choice for you, but I don't think it is, and I don't think you truly believe that either. I used to think that way, but I realized I was merely lying to myself. At least for me it isn't a choice it's simply who I've become. How is that really a 'choice'? I can be myself, or I can be someone I'm not. Is that really a choice? It's as much a choice as suicide, I think.
And it's not that I want to go back or to change anything, I like who I am, but society does not and to truly be myself means to be crushed, destroyed, and possibly even, literally, killed.
So what does being yourself get you when the whole world does not want you in it?
Personally I'm sick of this whole rat race myself. I've just given up. I can't do this anymore no matter how much I want to. Now I just shut my brain off and pretend I'm normal. I just don't care about anything, just like everyone else.
I understand you are frustrated, and you know what... so am I.
There is a difference from being frustrated and over coming your frustration versus wallowing in defeat and ending yourself.
You say being a loner is not by your choice it is "what you've become!" I disagree because you are the controller of your destiny. Despicable me, you are the one that sits on your throne. You are the King of You. No one has no dominion on how you feel, or what conclusions you decided that life is.
You are that you choose to be... Choose!
You can choose to hate yourself, or you can choose to be jealous of your rich or well to do neighbor, OR in the alternative... embrace the nation that which is you and love it, cherish it, and keep it, and be at happy peace!
Be positive, and anyone that tries to honeysuckle on you... fresia em'
When I say dumb down, I merely mean acting contrary to how you would normally act which often times be contrued as "above anything they can understand."
I don't mean to suggest that the majority of people are stupid.
I am afraid we are! Hell, I can be a dumbass sometimes.
The difference once you know better you are now responsible for acting in accordance to the new wisdom that is now cognizant to you.
Why do we as a society allow for hunger and homelessness to even exist in our society? Is there not enough for everyone? Its not that there is no solutions to these two significant problems. The truth is most people are very selfish and probably know what should be done, but we take delight in willful ignorance and pretending to be dumb on the issue. Its easier to be dumb is it not, everyone loves to not know. Why? So know one has to be responsible when the honeysuckle finally hits the fan.
It is a choice for me, believe it!
I could have many "fake" friends and I would make an excellent actor of being someone else. If you work in client services or customer relations as I do the majority of my life... your whole entire professional act is quite an illusion. Most of my client are very ethically bankrupt, and their moral compass is so messed up its a miracle they find there way back to the parking lot at the end of each day. Sure I could fake it to make it! - I refuse!
Life is too precious to be living around snakes and vipers that secretly wish for your fall and demise.
There is a reason why I suggest most "Loners" are very intelligent because often times they don't adapt well with the norms of society. Lets face it... The willfully stupid will spot your high intelligence a mile a way and they will stay clear from you. Unless you... like I said, act contrary to who you really are so you may be accepted by them.
What is "Staying true to yourself" that you asked? Whatsoever the realizations you concluded to life being based off your real life experiences both good and bad have resulted you to. To put it more simply, You have decided what you are and whats most important to you out of life and you see no reason based off a reasonable foundation to change otherwise.
You see life for what it is, and you know who you really are, and you know that which is right. Whatever that maybe.
I highly doubt the whole world doesn't want you. If anything they are probably intimidated by you and dismiss you before you can have the chance to dismiss them.
I wouldn't invest much stock in people who are willingly stupid. Even an ignorant person is willing to entertain the possibility you may have value and hear you out versus someone willingly stupid and knows better and simply just doesn't care and takes delight maintaining the status quo.
For me I love everyone no matter what, but I can only commit to other people if they are willing to commit to me, I can only take people seriously, if they take me seriously. I can only be sincere and honest for those that wish to do the the same with me.
Now I do realize... Words can have many different meanings for different people, when we say "Stay true to yourself" one can reasonably conclude not to go off killing yourself and cutting yourself, or any other negative thing that could have catastrophic results.
Deep down inside, you know whats true, you know what the real deal is. I mean really.... Despicable Me, you are no dummy!
I find you to be very genuine in what you wish to accomplish out of life, but I don't really think you wish harm or pain for yourself. In this moment you think that is the answer. But truth be told you want many awesome and positive things for yourself. You just don't know how to get there, and that's okay.
I don't know how to really get there either, but I got a few ideas. I'm gonna keep trying no matter what and stay happy for as long as I can.
I am not going to Lie to you.... I am not always as happy as I would like to be, If I were to base my happiness off percentages, I can safely say I am happy about 75% of the time, and 25% I would fall into negative depths of sadness but fortunately I am strong enough to dig out of that pit by the end of the day or the next day.
So yes I have made peace with the likelihood that I am probably going to be alone for the rest of my life. Will I have acquaintances, and confidants that I can occasionally talk and not always feel so alone... yes. It will be easier to a certain degree, but not the same remedy as a real genuine friend.
I haven't lost hope to connect with someone as a friend, hell I haven't even lost hope with finding a spouse. If it happens, great! I would be forever grateful, if not that's okay too.
Although this is just my opinion, I think I safely say the end goal for all of us loners is to desire the following...
We want to be loved for who we are.
We want to be accepted.
We want to be valued.
We want to know our honesty won't put the friendship at risk.
We want loyalty.
You get the idea.