HappyYogi
Well-known member
I've been thinking about the pain of my life recently and it comes down to this:
I feel very unimportant/worthwhile to others.
And it hurts.
And I don't know why.
Interestingly enough, I've had no trouble finding romantic love in my life. I've had my share of men who love and appreciate me...thank god if it wasn't for them I wouldn't have ANY love at ALL.
But for the life of me I feel no one cares or I am not worthy as a friend, as a social contact, as a family member and it hurts big time.
I've been told I am vivacious, funny, warm, stylish. I love to give to others, give support, kindness, invite them to my meet ups (yes I organize meet ups) but I rarely feel they ever value me in return. I love to create good times for others.
It hurts so much. A person needs many different kinds of relationships, not just a romantic relationship.
I am not sure why this is the way it is. I sometimes think that I am giving off the vibe of not valuing myself so others don't value me in return? Or maybe deep down need approval? (although lately I care less about this, a lot less).
I know it's so hard to put myself out there for a new friend. I'll feel I'll be rejected. I am very insecure about reaching out to a new "friend"!
I wish I could contact a "friendship coach" much like a dating coach to tell me what is happening.
Then I can maybe help myself.
I feel very unimportant/worthwhile to others.
And it hurts.
And I don't know why.
Interestingly enough, I've had no trouble finding romantic love in my life. I've had my share of men who love and appreciate me...thank god if it wasn't for them I wouldn't have ANY love at ALL.
But for the life of me I feel no one cares or I am not worthy as a friend, as a social contact, as a family member and it hurts big time.
I've been told I am vivacious, funny, warm, stylish. I love to give to others, give support, kindness, invite them to my meet ups (yes I organize meet ups) but I rarely feel they ever value me in return. I love to create good times for others.
It hurts so much. A person needs many different kinds of relationships, not just a romantic relationship.
I am not sure why this is the way it is. I sometimes think that I am giving off the vibe of not valuing myself so others don't value me in return? Or maybe deep down need approval? (although lately I care less about this, a lot less).
I know it's so hard to put myself out there for a new friend. I'll feel I'll be rejected. I am very insecure about reaching out to a new "friend"!
I wish I could contact a "friendship coach" much like a dating coach to tell me what is happening.
Then I can maybe help myself.