BlackCat
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To start I'll say that I have some heavy morals. I don't like people who cheat on others, I don't associate with people that do anything of that sort. No lies, no anything.
My best friend is in a relationship with a girl. They have been going at it for about a year. At first I was excited to get to know her, my best friend's girlfriend! This was a big deal.
She was great at first. A good friend. She seems sort of opposite to me, so we get a different point of view on most subjects. It's interesting.
This was all find and dandy until I found out that my other best friend had dated her before. They broke up because she was cheating on him from a guy from england! O_O. I was pretty pissed. But when asked about this she said she felt really bad about it and wouldn't do it again.
So I heard more about that guy from england. They eventually met and she got date raped, which scarred her forever. So she must have learned her lesson, right?
WRONG. A few months ago there was this ordeal with her about some guy from the internet from about 600 miles away, several states over. They texted and talked all the time on the net. She basically ignored my best friend. When he found out he was REALLY pissed. We confronted the guy from a long way away, who didn't even know she was in a relationship. So it wasn't his fault. He didn't speak to her again.
They worked it out though. She had been talking to this guy since before my friend and her had started dating... I think it's bullshit that they are even still together.
So since I found out about all of this, the way I view her, the respect I have for her, just dropped. I have no respect for her at all. I only see the bad now. She is selfish and can't deal with her problems, and hates gettings help from others about her problems. She has never seriously thanked me, and I've sacrificed a good deal for her.
It seems like since I started to view her lowly we have argued a lot. It seems like she can argue about anything and everything, even if she is wrong. If I am right she just complains to my best friend about how apparently mean I am. The opposing views thing went from interesting to a problem. I find little things about her that I just plain dislike.
I really want to disenguage myself from this girl, but I can't. My best friend is dating her, and the only way they are ever alone is by hanging out with me at my house and my giving them alone time. That is the only time outside of school, ever. I pretty much hate it, but I feel I have a responsibility on my shoulders. I am the reason for their relationship moving forward. This is such an issue, I could say that I hate her for what she has done. I can't trust her.
I have no idea what to do. Can someone help?
My best friend is in a relationship with a girl. They have been going at it for about a year. At first I was excited to get to know her, my best friend's girlfriend! This was a big deal.
She was great at first. A good friend. She seems sort of opposite to me, so we get a different point of view on most subjects. It's interesting.
This was all find and dandy until I found out that my other best friend had dated her before. They broke up because she was cheating on him from a guy from england! O_O. I was pretty pissed. But when asked about this she said she felt really bad about it and wouldn't do it again.
So I heard more about that guy from england. They eventually met and she got date raped, which scarred her forever. So she must have learned her lesson, right?
WRONG. A few months ago there was this ordeal with her about some guy from the internet from about 600 miles away, several states over. They texted and talked all the time on the net. She basically ignored my best friend. When he found out he was REALLY pissed. We confronted the guy from a long way away, who didn't even know she was in a relationship. So it wasn't his fault. He didn't speak to her again.
They worked it out though. She had been talking to this guy since before my friend and her had started dating... I think it's bullshit that they are even still together.
So since I found out about all of this, the way I view her, the respect I have for her, just dropped. I have no respect for her at all. I only see the bad now. She is selfish and can't deal with her problems, and hates gettings help from others about her problems. She has never seriously thanked me, and I've sacrificed a good deal for her.
It seems like since I started to view her lowly we have argued a lot. It seems like she can argue about anything and everything, even if she is wrong. If I am right she just complains to my best friend about how apparently mean I am. The opposing views thing went from interesting to a problem. I find little things about her that I just plain dislike.
I really want to disenguage myself from this girl, but I can't. My best friend is dating her, and the only way they are ever alone is by hanging out with me at my house and my giving them alone time. That is the only time outside of school, ever. I pretty much hate it, but I feel I have a responsibility on my shoulders. I am the reason for their relationship moving forward. This is such an issue, I could say that I hate her for what she has done. I can't trust her.
I have no idea what to do. Can someone help?