I was banned on Fakebook :-(

[Pezza]

They are just trolls, I know it's annoying but try your best to ignore them.

And when you can't and you lash out, don't use any offensive words and you should be okay

 

[Sci-Fi]

I think the reason I tend to react -- or overreact -- is that I was severely bullied as a kid, and the only defense I was offered by people was "ignore them." Of course, anyone who has been bullied knows that isn't very effective...so my online ranting I guess becomes my way of saying I am not going to be bullied and stay silent anymore...of course, in the adult world this isn't really working, is it?

Isn't that the truth, sometimes trying to walk away doesn't work, they will follow you or hunt you down and keep at it. They want that reaction from you and sometimes trying to stay calm is difficult to do. We give in the their perverse need.

 

[HappyYogi]

Lady sigh. I am sorry that happened to you. Must be kind of a shock. I didn't know they banned anyone...who knew?

Is it permanent or is it only a "time out"? Can you sign in on another name and try again?

I can see why you are upset. While I don't like FB for many reasons (the political spewing, the bragging, etc etc) I actually do like getting news feeds I enjoy.

I hope you can get back on again. We learn lessons. Don't be too hard on yourself.

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Oh, by the way this kind of thing happened to me in real life. I was putting notes on people's cars on my block to park better so everyone can park. Well, everyone got mad a me and one guy called the police on me, even though I didn't do anything wrong. The police told me to stop putting notes on the cars (even though it was making parking better for all) and kind of made me the bad guy, even though I was the only doing something. I felt the same way...but I just had to go with it and let it go. In time things diffuse.

 

[ladysigh]

Lady sigh. I am sorry that happened to you. Must be kind of a shock. I didn't know they banned anyone...who knew?

Is it permanent or is it only a "time out"? Can you sign in on another name and try again?

I can see why you are upset. While I don't like FB for many reasons (the political spewing, the bragging, etc etc) I actually do like getting news feeds I enjoy.

I hope you can get back on again.

Nope, its a permanent ban, anyone who "owns" a page can ban whoever they want. I was always vocal about their lack of troll control, maybe that helped them decide to get rid of me. And gawd I feel like such a pariah, when I went to the store I felt like everyone was looking at me and whispering "ha ha, that's the loser who got kicked off x's fakebook page!"

I think its for the best, my wall looks practically empty without their pics and posts, and I didn't realize how much time I was spending reading it all and getting sucked into the comments, leaving me angry and frustrated. My sanity and blood pressure should stabilize now.

I'm still a member of a few smaller groups, that should be enough for now (but no commenting, I swear!)...

 

[Sci-Fi]

LOL

Add some of your favorite tv shows/musicians, you'll get updates on them if you want to fill the void.

 

[TropicalStarfish]

I'm not so partial to Facebook, but uhmm... Gah, I don't even know. I guess I don't understand why such a thing would be upsetting.

When I game and a cheater comes on and just completely makes the game unplayable, I just laugh. What's even more funny is watching people actually get upset.

If some one is sowing grief on the interwebs, I mean, lol, who cares.

It's like back in high school in gym class when we were supposed to be playing tennis. Instead of taking it seriously, some of us just decided to have fun and hit, "home runs" lol on the tennis court, by just smashing the tennis balls as hard as we could and see how far we could get them to go. The teacher didn't care so much, and I imagine if the teacher did, then I'd feel a bit sorry for them at taking a lesson in how to play tennis seriously... As if doing well in that class could possibly change our lives in any way or better prepare us for the future.

I may just be jaded, but you really have to consider the type of people your grouped with now. Most people who don't have a job and a lot of free time to spend on the internet are kids anywhere from 8 to X years old, perhaps with very little parental super vision in their lives if any involvement at all, craving massive amounts of attention they will never get. Anyone who doesn't fall into that catagory is at least then most likely either male or female. If they are male chances are they will use the internet to jerk off today. I mean this list goes on, but... These are the people your taking seriously?

The Internet is serious business, yeah, but mostly the porn/entertainment business. So just chillax... Learn to laugh at it if you can. I'm more bothered by the people that take themselves too seriously than the trolls. Nothing worse to me than having no sense of humor...

Good luck to you.

 

[ladysigh]

I'm more bothered by the people that take themselves too seriously than the trolls.

Well, gee, I'm sorry I annoyed you so much with posting this thread. I'll check with the mods and see if it can be deleted.

Nothing worse to me than having no sense of humor...

I think my sense of humor is just fine...I just don't find anything funny about being told to "eat sh*t" or "f*** you" while trying to have an intelligent discussion. Maybe I'm just old fashioned.

 

[Sci-Fi]

There is no need to delete this thread, it is actually a good topic.

Tropical, it's different for you because you don't let it get to you. Not everyone is like that. It's not about having a sense of humour, sometimes having a person attack you isn't funny. It's being a bully. The internet has become an extension of people's lives, so when they are attacked they take it the same way as if in real life. You're right, we shouldn't let the trolls get to us but not everyone is wired that way.

Some people just get worked up over things they are passionate about. When someone comes in and wants to troll it, a natural reaction for them to do is to lash back out. Especially if that person is being insulting instead of having a normal civil discussion.

What bothers me more is the people who feel the need to purposely agitate someone instead of having an intelligent conversation. When people do that there is more wrong with them than the person who lashes back to defend themselves.

Ladysigh isn't denying the way she acted, she knows she got suckered into a troll and has suffered the consequences.

You're not being old fashion, everyone wants to be treated that way Ladysigh, whether it is in real life or on the internet. We just have to learn that these people will always be out there and learn how to handle them in a different manor, not letting them get to us like Tropical does. Learning to instead of saying f* you back to them, being more witty and clever. Like responding with "I'm sorry I didn't realize children were on here." Or just learning to ignore those people.

 

[ladysigh]

Thank you, Sci Fi!!!

 

[roguewave]

I'm more bothered by the people that take themselves too seriously than the trolls.

Well, gee, I'm sorry I annoyed you so much with posting this thread. I'll check with the mods and see if it can be deleted.

Nothing worse to me than having no sense of humor...

I think my sense of humor is just fine...I just don't find anything funny about being told to "eat sh*t" or "f*** you" while trying to have an intelligent discussion. Maybe I'm just old fashioned.

I totally understand, Ladysigh and I don't think you are being old fashioned about it. Being told to "eat honeysuckle" or "burn in hell" or some other thing is painful. It hurts in real life and it hurts online.
I also understand the mindset of not trying to let it get to you, if you can do that. But we are human beings with human weaknesses and human emotions. Being bullied or trolled hurts and it worries me when people don't take this seriously.
My best suggestion to you is to try and do things now to get your mind off of it, after you are finished processing what happened.
In time it will hurt less and less.
From now on, be on alert for trolls and withdraw from online arguments early to protect yourself from getting hurt. I'm not saying to do this IRL, but online it is a must.
My skin is not made of steel either. I know the hurt. Hopefully you can leave it behind soon.

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

I like Facebook, but their abuse and report policy is more geared towards rewarding the abusers, rather than the victims.

 

[ladysigh]

I like Facebook, but their abuse and report policy is more geared towards rewarding the abusers, rather than the victims.

I think part of the problem is that people who create fb pages for specific causes just assume people would never troll their site, so the site gets 1,000 "likes" by these antagonists and the owner of the site just can't be bothered to weed them out...seems like no page is safe, I have the Lord of the Rings movie page liked, and jerks are always posting on the wall "LOTR SUCKS!" and I'm like, seriously? Get a life!!!

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I totally understand, Ladysigh and I don't think you are being old fashioned about it. Being told to "eat honeysuckle" or "burn in hell" or some other thing is painful. It hurts in real life and it hurts online.
I also understand the mindset of not trying to let it get to you, if you can do that. But we are human beings with human weaknesses and human emotions. Being bullied or trolled hurts and it worries me when people don't take this seriously.
My best suggestion to you is to try and do things now to get your mind off of it, after you are finished processing what happened.
In time it will hurt less and less.
From now on, be on alert for trolls and withdraw from online arguments early to protect yourself from getting hurt. I'm not saying to do this IRL, but online it is a must.
My skin is not made of steel either. I know the hurt. Hopefully you can leave it behind soon.

Yeah I'm feeling better about it now. Yesterday I saw on my wall that one of my friends posted a comment on that very same page, I took a peek and of course the trolls were out and about, and I was GLAD I couldn't post. Although the sting is still there, albeit a bit duller.

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

What was interesting was that I once got into an online sparring with a celebrity, who was being harassed on her Facebook page. She assumed I was the one doing it, I assumed she was a troll, the 2 trolls who set that up were laughing their asses off.

When the dust cleared, I had spoken with said celebrity on the phone, I found out it was really her, she found out that I wasn't the troll, and the 2 trolls were banned off of Facebook.

At the end, it was kind of cool, to talk to a celebrity...but at the same time, not cool, because I didn't like that she thought I was dissing her, when I was actually a fan.

I agree that Facebook is a playground for online trolls. They do it for the LOLZ, or whatever. I personally hate cyber bullying, so I report every single abusive post or page that comes up (not sure if it actually helps, though.)

 

[Pezza]

What was interesting was that I once got into an online sparring with a celebrity, who was being harassed on her Facebook page. She assumed I was the one doing it, I assumed she was a troll, the 2 trolls who set that up were laughing their asses off.

When the dust cleared, I had spoken with said celebrity on the phone, I found out it was really her, she found out that I wasn't the troll, and the 2 trolls were banned off of Facebook.

At the end, it was kind of cool, to talk to a celebrity...but at the same time, not cool, because I didn't like that she thought I was dissing her, when I was actually a fan.

I agree that Facebook is a playground for online trolls. They do it for the LOLZ, or whatever. I personally hate cyber bullying, so I report every single abusive post or page that comes up (not sure if it actually helps, though.)

Sorry to be off topic but I have to ask, Who was the celebrity?

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

What was interesting was that I once got into an online sparring with a celebrity, who was being harassed on her Facebook page. She assumed I was the one doing it, I assumed she was a troll, the 2 trolls who set that up were laughing their asses off.

When the dust cleared, I had spoken with said celebrity on the phone, I found out it was really her, she found out that I wasn't the troll, and the 2 trolls were banned off of Facebook.

At the end, it was kind of cool, to talk to a celebrity...but at the same time, not cool, because I didn't like that she thought I was dissing her, when I was actually a fan.

I agree that Facebook is a playground for online trolls. They do it for the LOLZ, or whatever. I personally hate cyber bullying, so I report every single abusive post or page that comes up (not sure if it actually helps, though.)

Sorry to be off topic but I have to ask, Who was the celebrity?

Roseanne Barr.

 

[HappyYogi]

Oh I thought you got kicked off of ALL of FB (which I never heard of before). You just got kicked off someone's page.

Well, this happens. If it was a page I really liked I'd be bummed but then I'd find other pages.

I try to keep my FB postings positive. If I disagree I try to do it in a non confrontational/rude way (not saying you did this). I see a lot of rudeness on FB I don't want a part of it.

Good luck finding other groups you enjoy.

Lady sigh. I am sorry that happened to you. Must be kind of a shock. I didn't know they banned anyone...who knew?

Is it permanent or is it only a "time out"? Can you sign in on another name and try again?

I can see why you are upset. While I don't like FB for many reasons (the political spewing, the bragging, etc etc) I actually do like getting news feeds I enjoy.

I hope you can get back on again.

Nope, its a permanent ban, anyone who "owns" a page can ban whoever they want. I was always vocal about their lack of troll control, maybe that helped them decide to get rid of me. And gawd I feel like such a pariah, when I went to the store I felt like everyone was looking at me and whispering "ha ha, that's the loser who got kicked off x's fakebook page!"

I think its for the best, my wall looks practically empty without their pics and posts, and I didn't realize how much time I was spending reading it all and getting sucked into the comments, leaving me angry and frustrated. My sanity and blood pressure should stabilize now.

I'm still a member of a few smaller groups, that should be enough for now (but no commenting, I swear!)...