I live with my Dad and we are both interested in sports. So we watch alot of football and cricket etc.
He is the most pesismistic person I have ever known. Every game were we are rooting or supporting for a team, he insists the other team will win. He comes up with sayings 'we won't win this' - it's every game. England football, England cricket, our local team, English golfers. Every single sporting event I watch, he keeps saying over and over again that our team will lose. It doesn't matter what score it is, how the match is going.
Anyway I have got used to this even though it drives me nuts. And the other thing is I can't say one little thing to him. If I do he sulks and gives me the silent treatment. He won't talk for hours on end.
So yesterday we had the ryder cup golf and he starts up, slagging off all our side, going on and on and on. He never as a good thing to say about anybody english, he calls them all 'honeysuckle' - So I had that which pissed me off and this morning we had english cricket on. And he calls them non stop (this includes shouting at the top of his voice at the tv) - so I had 2 hours of that. And then we went to our local football match. And he starts up 'they won't win this' etc, all the way thru the match. And I ignore him but finally after 30 minutes I snap and say 'say something positive for gods sake !' - of course he doesn't say anything, sulks, never says a word for the next 15 minutes like a childish *******. I try to talk but he doesn't answer so I just lose it. I stormed out and started shouting at myself. And I wanted to leave but the gates were shut. And if they had of been open I don't know what I had done. I was so mad. I could have done something to myself. BEcause this isn't something new. I have had 30 years of this ! He moans about everything and everybody, never has a good word to say about anything.
I know I should leave but I never do and it all gets forgotten the next day. I went back to sit next to him at the football match and he asked me where I had been. I made an excuse.
And everything is okay now but of course when I put the golf on tv this evening - he says 'they won't do any good because they are honeysuckle !' - i know he can't help it. I just don't see the point of it. I got so mad today I could have done anything.
How do I deal with this ?
(I do ignore him but he complains about this !)
He is the most pesismistic person I have ever known. Every game were we are rooting or supporting for a team, he insists the other team will win. He comes up with sayings 'we won't win this' - it's every game. England football, England cricket, our local team, English golfers. Every single sporting event I watch, he keeps saying over and over again that our team will lose. It doesn't matter what score it is, how the match is going.
Anyway I have got used to this even though it drives me nuts. And the other thing is I can't say one little thing to him. If I do he sulks and gives me the silent treatment. He won't talk for hours on end.
So yesterday we had the ryder cup golf and he starts up, slagging off all our side, going on and on and on. He never as a good thing to say about anybody english, he calls them all 'honeysuckle' - So I had that which pissed me off and this morning we had english cricket on. And he calls them non stop (this includes shouting at the top of his voice at the tv) - so I had 2 hours of that. And then we went to our local football match. And he starts up 'they won't win this' etc, all the way thru the match. And I ignore him but finally after 30 minutes I snap and say 'say something positive for gods sake !' - of course he doesn't say anything, sulks, never says a word for the next 15 minutes like a childish *******. I try to talk but he doesn't answer so I just lose it. I stormed out and started shouting at myself. And I wanted to leave but the gates were shut. And if they had of been open I don't know what I had done. I was so mad. I could have done something to myself. BEcause this isn't something new. I have had 30 years of this ! He moans about everything and everybody, never has a good word to say about anything.
I know I should leave but I never do and it all gets forgotten the next day. I went back to sit next to him at the football match and he asked me where I had been. I made an excuse.
And everything is okay now but of course when I put the golf on tv this evening - he says 'they won't do any good because they are honeysuckle !' - i know he can't help it. I just don't see the point of it. I got so mad today I could have done anything.
How do I deal with this ?
(I do ignore him but he complains about this !)