Alonewith2cats
Well-known member
I know nobody wants this, neither do I, but if it were to be true is there a way to accept it and be happy for the rest of your life? Imagine this:
A crystal ball tells you that you will be single for the rest of your life. You can pretty much throw any fantasies of romantic love and/or marriage out the window. You cannot expect to find a member of the opposite sex to kiss, cuddle with or be emotionally intimate (not in the romantic sense, maybe you'll find a friend who is like a brother or sister to you) or sexually intimate with ever again for the rest of your life. It's just not going to happen for you, period. You have to accept this fact for all eternity.
What would you do to make yourself happy in spite of this? I want to know how I can prepare myself for this possibility. I will not have sex without being in committed relationship because sex without love does not make me feel good, it actually makes me feel like crap so celibacy is the way to go for me if I never get lucky in love. So I'm trying to figure out alternative ways to find happiness and fulfillment in my life not just temporarily but permanently, just in case I have to. Any thoughts? How would you live your life if this was going to be your reality starting from now until death by old age?
I would probably have to make many, many massage therapy appointments just to satisfy my aching need for touch, and then I would try to seek out friendships and community through approriate groups and/or organizations, find something to volunteer my time for and do anything and everything that gives me pleasure or enjoyment (non-sexual of course).
A crystal ball tells you that you will be single for the rest of your life. You can pretty much throw any fantasies of romantic love and/or marriage out the window. You cannot expect to find a member of the opposite sex to kiss, cuddle with or be emotionally intimate (not in the romantic sense, maybe you'll find a friend who is like a brother or sister to you) or sexually intimate with ever again for the rest of your life. It's just not going to happen for you, period. You have to accept this fact for all eternity.
What would you do to make yourself happy in spite of this? I want to know how I can prepare myself for this possibility. I will not have sex without being in committed relationship because sex without love does not make me feel good, it actually makes me feel like crap so celibacy is the way to go for me if I never get lucky in love. So I'm trying to figure out alternative ways to find happiness and fulfillment in my life not just temporarily but permanently, just in case I have to. Any thoughts? How would you live your life if this was going to be your reality starting from now until death by old age?
I would probably have to make many, many massage therapy appointments just to satisfy my aching need for touch, and then I would try to seek out friendships and community through approriate groups and/or organizations, find something to volunteer my time for and do anything and everything that gives me pleasure or enjoyment (non-sexual of course).