edgecrusher
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my best friend and only friend that i really regularly talk to has been staying with me for about a month. he is in the army but hurt his knee and has been on leave for a month now so he has been staying with us. he basically told me that i could move in with him and his "girlfriend" where he is stationed about 4-5 hours from here. the army would basically be paying almost all of his rent and giving him some money for groceries every month. he is supposedly going to marry his "girlfriend" so if they do that then he will be getting even more money for her and her kid. so basically i wouldnt have to pay like any kind of rent or anything really. id be allowed to bring my cat too. sounds like it could be a sweet deal right?
my issue is... its not that i dont like his girlfriend, its that they argue a lot. i dont really get why he stays with her because all they do is fresia and argue and then he complains to me about her. on top of that, if i leave where im living know it could kinda screw my sister over. she would be out a person on rent and theres no way that she could afford the place without another roommate. on top of that my name is on the mortgage for this trailer. my friend even said that since almost all his bills are paid for he would use some of his regular paycheck to cover my portion of the rent here until she found a roommate.
if i move somewhere completely new i wont know anyone. i dont go out and i dont really meet new people as a result of that. so it would literally be just the people i am living with that i would know. on top of this i would either have to transfer to a different location of the company that i currently work for if that is possible or just get a new job. i really like the people i work with despite that fact that i am always ridiculously broke. thats why i havent done anything with myself job wise. i REALLY dont want to do the whole "new people" thing. my sister would be really sad if i left and i dont want to leave her because we get along so well and we never argue and we enjoy hanging out with each other.
the thing is... i REALLY need change at this point. and i honestly dont like this area. id prefer to move more north and this new place would be more south. i dont really like the idea of living somehwere and not really paying anything. it just doesnt feel right, plus if anything happened that could be held over my head. although my friend is really not the type to do anything like that. im just worried that i will hate living there with his girlfriend and her kid. im not used to always having a kid around. i dont really know what to do here. at first i wasnt seriously thinking about it but like i said i REALLY need change. im just SOO tired of my current situation. moving there would kind of force me to change some stuff about my life. i just cant get past leaving my sister here though. she would be pretty upset about it.
any advice from any of you great people would be much appreciated.
my issue is... its not that i dont like his girlfriend, its that they argue a lot. i dont really get why he stays with her because all they do is fresia and argue and then he complains to me about her. on top of that, if i leave where im living know it could kinda screw my sister over. she would be out a person on rent and theres no way that she could afford the place without another roommate. on top of that my name is on the mortgage for this trailer. my friend even said that since almost all his bills are paid for he would use some of his regular paycheck to cover my portion of the rent here until she found a roommate.
if i move somewhere completely new i wont know anyone. i dont go out and i dont really meet new people as a result of that. so it would literally be just the people i am living with that i would know. on top of this i would either have to transfer to a different location of the company that i currently work for if that is possible or just get a new job. i really like the people i work with despite that fact that i am always ridiculously broke. thats why i havent done anything with myself job wise. i REALLY dont want to do the whole "new people" thing. my sister would be really sad if i left and i dont want to leave her because we get along so well and we never argue and we enjoy hanging out with each other.
the thing is... i REALLY need change at this point. and i honestly dont like this area. id prefer to move more north and this new place would be more south. i dont really like the idea of living somehwere and not really paying anything. it just doesnt feel right, plus if anything happened that could be held over my head. although my friend is really not the type to do anything like that. im just worried that i will hate living there with his girlfriend and her kid. im not used to always having a kid around. i dont really know what to do here. at first i wasnt seriously thinking about it but like i said i REALLY need change. im just SOO tired of my current situation. moving there would kind of force me to change some stuff about my life. i just cant get past leaving my sister here though. she would be pretty upset about it.
any advice from any of you great people would be much appreciated.