Angelo91 said:
I havent ever thought of my body langauage but now im going to work on that the best I can now. I been like this for years. Wow what an eye opener. I hope my bodylanguage is the problem, not aspergers or something. Im so stressed out and thinking something is really wrong with me.
Yep, body language is huge.
Don't worry too much about it, bud. When I was 17 and 18 I had been a shut-in for years. I started getting out in the world and pursuing my goals and found that I couldn't even hardly hold a conversation, at all. A lot of it is just making yourself experience it, and learning 'hands on' so to speak.
Doing things, experiencing life, is also important. I found that with no job and no real hobbies besides video games, it was hard to converse or relate to people. When I got a job and started working, started getting out and doing more things (even by myself), I found I could relate better and make more of a connection.
So now, every now and then I just try something different to do. Until two years ago, I had only been fishing one time in my entire life. But I tried it one day and found I liked it. So now I fish rather frequently, and I even bought a boat.
(You don't have to have heaps of money, either...I only make about 20k a year. Less after taxes, and it's not like I'll be paying less of those any time soon. It's all about management, cutting other expenses [I unplug everything but my fridge when I'm gone to save power, really helps], and finding the right deals.)
I've never gone mountain biking before, but I decided it sounded pretty cool and did some research, and just today bought my first bike. If the weather cooperates, I'm going riding tomorrow or Saturday. And come this winter I've vowed to try a winter sport...maybe snowboarding, or Nordic skiing.
These are all things I can not only enjoy, and invite other people to do or go do with other people, but they are experiences I can draw on to communicate with a variety of individuals. I can talk to my rock climber buddy about the sweet trail ride I had and how I'm getting used to my bike, or talk to my coworker about the huge fish I caught over the weekend (or lack thereof!). And then, since I'm connecting with those people, we'll interact better, and those interactions are things to talk about with others.
It's like a big web that you have to weave, but once you've got those first strands up, the rest comes easier upon that framework.