cumulus.james
Well-known member
I am looking to move to a new area. But there’s something I don’t understand
Years ago I dated someone who moved 3 times in the time I knew him. Every time he moved within a week he knew several people in the street. I heard he moved again last year and no doubt knows half the street again. There was nothing special about him, he was unemployed, not blessed with the best of faces and very common. I never found out how he did it.
These people who seem to accumulate friends wherever they go how the hell do they do it? Perhaps they are just in your face and shove themselves in peoples lives and sometimes it stick I don’t know.
There has never been a worse time for making friends than in this day and age for some reason. Perhaps its my age, it was certainly much easier to make friends in my early 20’s. perhaps it is the case that people in their teens and early 20s enjoy a kind of freedom that allows for new friendships, once you get to 30’s and over people are partnered, have kids, have careers and the friends they accumulated along the way so much harder to find a 30+ yr old to be friends with. And at the same time as 18 yr olds probably don’t want to hang out with me, I don’t really crave their company either as we are in different places in our lives.
I’ve seen a couple of 16 yr olds on here because they are struggling to find friends. Trust me act now. Because by the time you reach 30 (and it comes along sooner than you would believe) it is too late. It is also true that it is easier for women then men to find both relationships and friendships. And it is 4000 times easier for straight people to find anyone at all to talk to than gay people. Which is another warning to the kid worried about being gay. Don’t be gay if you can possibly help it. Being gay is a cancer on the soul, it leaves you hurt and alone.
Ugh…
What world is this so blackened and cruel?
Years ago I dated someone who moved 3 times in the time I knew him. Every time he moved within a week he knew several people in the street. I heard he moved again last year and no doubt knows half the street again. There was nothing special about him, he was unemployed, not blessed with the best of faces and very common. I never found out how he did it.
These people who seem to accumulate friends wherever they go how the hell do they do it? Perhaps they are just in your face and shove themselves in peoples lives and sometimes it stick I don’t know.
There has never been a worse time for making friends than in this day and age for some reason. Perhaps its my age, it was certainly much easier to make friends in my early 20’s. perhaps it is the case that people in their teens and early 20s enjoy a kind of freedom that allows for new friendships, once you get to 30’s and over people are partnered, have kids, have careers and the friends they accumulated along the way so much harder to find a 30+ yr old to be friends with. And at the same time as 18 yr olds probably don’t want to hang out with me, I don’t really crave their company either as we are in different places in our lives.
I’ve seen a couple of 16 yr olds on here because they are struggling to find friends. Trust me act now. Because by the time you reach 30 (and it comes along sooner than you would believe) it is too late. It is also true that it is easier for women then men to find both relationships and friendships. And it is 4000 times easier for straight people to find anyone at all to talk to than gay people. Which is another warning to the kid worried about being gay. Don’t be gay if you can possibly help it. Being gay is a cancer on the soul, it leaves you hurt and alone.
Ugh…
What world is this so blackened and cruel?