Nobody is entitled to a relationship

[Felix]

Nah just sex.

I understand. Is not for everyone, and for the record I would much rather have a gf, but you do what you can...

 

[ardour]

An awkward fumble as a teenager would not really have added much to your life. I doubt it leaves anyone in that much of a better place as an adult. And better to admit being a virgin than "I did it with a prostitute".
Sex in the absence of a meaningful relationship means nothing to me. If all she wanted was quick fling (as if) then I'd take that in a similar way to rejection, honestly. 34 year old virgin and I don't care that much.

 

[Felix]

Well perhaps for you, rdor, is like that but not everyone needs a love or a relationship to have sex. For me is much better like this, at least I can satisfy my sexual urges while I wait for a more fullfilling thing... Is like having cookies while waiting for the cake

 

[ardour]

Okay then.. It would probably leave me cold and lonelier than ever.

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

Me, too.

I would feel sexually fulfilled, but that's about all. I certainly wouldn't feel emotionally fulfilled.

Of course, if a porn star lookalike wanted to sleep with me, I wouldn't say no.

 

[Boring-Weirdo]

Agree or disagree?

Entitlement:
1: the condition of having a right to have, do, or get something

2: the feeling or belief that you deserve to be given something (such as special privileges)

Legally we are not entitled to a relationship in the USA. Whether one feels one is entitled is entirely subjective.

I don't believe in free-will, so what one gets in life can be seen as entirely luck-based (in a manner of speaking). I see many other people get relationships and I know I would like one too, but it seems more difficult for me in comparison to others. That does not seem fair, and in that way I feel entitled to relationships.

But, as is plainly evident, life is not fair.

Edit: sorry for bumping this old thread, I didn't see it was long finished until after I replied.

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

Life is definitely not fair.

So many of my friends are married, have kids, and have had lots of great experiences. I'm just now getting my honeysuckle together at 31.

 

[EveWasFramed]

I see many other people get relationships and I know I would like one too...

I thought you just wanted sex? You don't need to be in a relationship for that.


RE: Why do YOU want to be in a relationship?

Sex. And sex. And also sex.

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

I could care less about sex. I have porn for that.

What I want most is companionship, and intimacy, and digital porn can't give you that. If I had that, I wouldn't need the porn, either.

 

[Boring-Weirdo]

I thought you just wanted sex? You don't need to be in a relationship for that.


RE: Why do YOU want to be in a relationship?

I was using "relationship" as a euphemism for sex.

How am I supposed to get sex without a relationship? I thought that was the whole purpose of being in a relationship.

 

[Rainbows]

I thought you just wanted sex? You don't need to be in a relationship for that.


RE: Why do YOU want to be in a relationship?

I was using "relationship" as a euphemism for sex.

How am I supposed to get sex without a relationship? I thought that was the whole purpose of being in a relationship.

Really..

It's about sharing life together and enjoying the moments you like the most together. about not being alone anymore and having someone who is supporting you.

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

I was using "relationship" as a euphemism for sex.

How am I supposed to get sex without a relationship? I thought that was the whole purpose of being in a relationship.

You might want to re-evaluate your priorities, if that's all you think relationships are good for.

 

[Boring-Weirdo]

I was using "relationship" as a euphemism for sex.

How am I supposed to get sex without a relationship? I thought that was the whole purpose of being in a relationship.

You might want to re-evaluate your priorities, if that's all you think relationships are good for.

I went nearly 3 decades without a girlfriend, and I feel pretty much okay being alone. But I need sex. I need it.

Really, if I didn't want sex I'd never even attempt to talk to a female. That's how I thought it was for most males.

I thought men entered relationships for sex, and women had relationships for protection. For what other reasons do you pursue romance?

 

[a lonely person]

According to maslow your basic needs have not been fullfiled, so your priorities are fine, once (if ever) sex is no longer lacking in your life, you would probably be thinking "hmm.. maybe I shouldnt be living with my parents" or then "hmm.. I wish my life was more than going to work (after you have a job and can live independently) and returning home to rest. Of course, if, for example, you spendt other 3 decades of your life with a meaningless existence (after having your basic needs satisfied) you probably wouldnt be thinking "hmm..." but rather "I need XXX".
Its just a hypotesis of course, this is assuming The pyramid is correct, also your misunderstanding of what relationships are for might have to do with your asperger (you said you have asperger right?).

 

[Boring-Weirdo]

Yes, I think I agree with you, a lonely person.

People always want more, so as soon as I got sex I'd be wanting something else in addition. Even knowing that, I think my life would be improved by filling out as many of my wants/needs as I can.

And yes, I have aspergers. Thanks for reading.

 

[Solivagant]

also your misunderstanding of what relationships are for might have to do with your asperger (you said you have asperger right?).

Personally I doubt it has anything to do with Asperger's. I have Asperger's and I don't share his view on what relationships are for at all. Neither does anyone else I know who has Asperger's. It likely stems from something else.

 

[Batman55]

Personally I doubt it has anything to do with Asperger's. I have Asperger's and I don't share his view on what relationships are for at all. Neither does anyone else I know who has Asperger's. It likely stems from something else.

It seems there are a lot of misconceptions about the point of relationships lately.

Just last night in another forum some guy said the whole point of having a girlfriend is for social status.

I had to admit I had never *once* thought of it that way. I certainly hope that view is not a common one.

 

[Boring-Weirdo]

It seems there are a lot of misconceptions about the point of relationships lately.

Isn't the point of relationships subjective? The definition itself is somewhat vague:
Relationship:
1.
a connection, association, or involvement.
2.
connection between persons by blood or marriage.
3.
an emotional or other connection between people: the relationship between teachers and students.
4.
a sexual involvement; affair.

 

[Locke]

I went nearly 3 decades without a girlfriend, and I feel pretty much okay being alone. But I need sex. I need it.

Needing something isn't a good reason to have it, nor will it help you get it. Whether you've gone so long without a girlfriend because you wanted it that way or not is beside the point. There's a good chance that you'll remain alone and will never get what you "need" because of your views about women.

Really, if I didn't want sex I'd never even attempt to talk to a female. That's how I thought it was for most males.

That's your loss. Women have a lot more to offer than sex. Would you like it if people reduced you to only what "needs" you could satisfy for them? Do you like being used for other's selfish reasons and not cared about?

I thought men entered relationships for sex, and women had relationships for protection. For what other reasons do you pursue romance?

Protection from what? Creepy guys who only care about sex? There are many, many reasons to be in a relationship with someone. I'd list some of them, but I get the feeling you don't care. I don't know whether to be offended that you believe most men think like you, or to just feel sorry for you.

Even if you do find a relationship with someone else who only cares about sex, it most likely won't last because it would be based purely off of physical needs. She would eventually recognize that you only care about one thing, she would want more, and leave. Rightfully so. Your views are so twisted that you may go another 3 decades living with your own selfish physical needs, unless you figure out that there's more to relationships than sex.

You're "pretty much okay being alone"? At least you have that going for you.

 

[Dr. Strangelove]

I went nearly 3 decades without a girlfriend, and I feel pretty much okay being alone. But I need sex. I need it.

Really, if I didn't want sex I'd never even attempt to talk to a female. That's how I thought it was for most males.

I thought men entered relationships for sex, and women had relationships for protection. For what other reasons do you pursue romance?

Wow.

I can't speak for everybody but I find sex so much more stimulating, exciting, intense and enjoyable when I share an emotional connection with my partner.

Women having relationships for protection? Not to be demeaning but what planet do you live on? Women mostly enter relationships pretty much for the same reason as men. They are looking for an emotional and intimate partnership. They simply want to love somebody and be loved back. It is such an amazing feeling to have somebody love you who is not obligated to do so. You are missing out on so much.