man of one
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In january of this year i came on here asking for advice. I asked if i should add a girl on facebook that i felt attracted to, but barely knew..we talked like 2 times at most..I don't think she even knew my name, but i went ahead and added her like 2 days after asking here and included a message explaining that we had talked a couple of times, I was from college and i would like to know her better, to this day she has not responded or added me..This was before college started..
College starts and we see each other in the hallways and parking lot, but I act like it wasn't me that asked for her on fb, I felt embarassed..I also didn't know if she knew it was me that wanted to add her or if she just didn't...I'm usually uptight and serious and things like this quickly turn awkward for me..I'm ok behind the computer screen, but real life comes and another person appears..I still see her now and then and she still has my attention, but I feel things are just too weird and awkward now, I also don't know how to approach her and if i ever get to chat with her if i should even ask her that i added her on fb cause that may put her in an uncomfortable position...anyways I know her car, and I always have lil ideas like to put a rose on it, preferably hold it with the windshield wipers, with a note on it, but that is all in my head I haven't had the guts to do that..
Since I was failing left and right I started chatting with a girl who is a friend of mine which I liked back in the day..we talked about a bunch of stuff..and since i trusted her i asked if she found me attractive she said she did and that she was constantly checking me out supposedly(she had a bf then and also has one now so nothing could happen) I told her that I actually liked her back when we were still in the same college, that was like in 2011 she said she didn't know that and I even flirted a bit in a friendly manner..It felt good having someone to talk with and let it all out. After talking with her I even talked about all my girl troubles with my mom something i had never done..later on I tried to chat with the girl again but didn't reply a couple of days later the girl left fb and to this day hasn't come back. This was the turning point, I started getting aggressive and withdrawn, cause i obviously thought my convo made her uncomfortable and she either blocked me or just left fb..she was the only link to having a girl that is a friend and she left..I started shunning my family and the guy that was opening up shriveled up and died..Today I came from college after doing poorly on a test and i was just lashing out when i got home, shouting at everyone, destroyed various things by slaminng them against the floor, my mom had to hide my pills cause she was worried i would do something..My performance on the test got me mad (dont like getting bad grades), but the combination of the test and my shitty life, rejections, being ignored is what made me explode, I felt like a double failure, the test was the catalyst..Now a days i spend most of my days locked in my room..don't socialize..
Even after all of this I still like the girl I mentioned in the 1st and 2nd paragraph, but the way I am acting I dont think anything will happen, though the rose idea or something similar may be what i need to push me back again and probably give me a chance with her and give me another perspective in life..
Well that was a good vent...thoughts on how to get this girls attention? is the rose thing a good idea? I really need something to bounce me back, i'm miserable in all honesty so i need help to suceed in one thing in this life at least..thanks for reading i appreciate your advices..If i do the rose thing or whatever i will post pics. I first need to find the guts to do such a thing, something like this is real out of my norm, so it' hard to do it, but following your advices i will do what you guys think is right..cause something needs to change NOW, im not getting any younger and life keeps flying by, i need to act, even if is hard as f#ck for me..thanks for reading...
College starts and we see each other in the hallways and parking lot, but I act like it wasn't me that asked for her on fb, I felt embarassed..I also didn't know if she knew it was me that wanted to add her or if she just didn't...I'm usually uptight and serious and things like this quickly turn awkward for me..I'm ok behind the computer screen, but real life comes and another person appears..I still see her now and then and she still has my attention, but I feel things are just too weird and awkward now, I also don't know how to approach her and if i ever get to chat with her if i should even ask her that i added her on fb cause that may put her in an uncomfortable position...anyways I know her car, and I always have lil ideas like to put a rose on it, preferably hold it with the windshield wipers, with a note on it, but that is all in my head I haven't had the guts to do that..
Since I was failing left and right I started chatting with a girl who is a friend of mine which I liked back in the day..we talked about a bunch of stuff..and since i trusted her i asked if she found me attractive she said she did and that she was constantly checking me out supposedly(she had a bf then and also has one now so nothing could happen) I told her that I actually liked her back when we were still in the same college, that was like in 2011 she said she didn't know that and I even flirted a bit in a friendly manner..It felt good having someone to talk with and let it all out. After talking with her I even talked about all my girl troubles with my mom something i had never done..later on I tried to chat with the girl again but didn't reply a couple of days later the girl left fb and to this day hasn't come back. This was the turning point, I started getting aggressive and withdrawn, cause i obviously thought my convo made her uncomfortable and she either blocked me or just left fb..she was the only link to having a girl that is a friend and she left..I started shunning my family and the guy that was opening up shriveled up and died..Today I came from college after doing poorly on a test and i was just lashing out when i got home, shouting at everyone, destroyed various things by slaminng them against the floor, my mom had to hide my pills cause she was worried i would do something..My performance on the test got me mad (dont like getting bad grades), but the combination of the test and my shitty life, rejections, being ignored is what made me explode, I felt like a double failure, the test was the catalyst..Now a days i spend most of my days locked in my room..don't socialize..
Even after all of this I still like the girl I mentioned in the 1st and 2nd paragraph, but the way I am acting I dont think anything will happen, though the rose idea or something similar may be what i need to push me back again and probably give me a chance with her and give me another perspective in life..
Well that was a good vent...thoughts on how to get this girls attention? is the rose thing a good idea? I really need something to bounce me back, i'm miserable in all honesty so i need help to suceed in one thing in this life at least..thanks for reading i appreciate your advices..If i do the rose thing or whatever i will post pics. I first need to find the guts to do such a thing, something like this is real out of my norm, so it' hard to do it, but following your advices i will do what you guys think is right..cause something needs to change NOW, im not getting any younger and life keeps flying by, i need to act, even if is hard as f#ck for me..thanks for reading...