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Kind of.

I find myself having to rely on asking the other person questions, because I don't have a lot to say about myself, because I either haven't been able to do it because I can't afford it, or because I don't think I can do it because I'm afraid I don't have enough talent/potential, or because I don't even know what I would enjoy that much.

I find that I run out of material quickly, when talking about myself. I haven't been having that good of a time in life either, so that also hurts my ability to have stuff to talk about since you aren't supposed to talk about negative stuff because it doesn't make you look good, which goes double if you're a guy.

Then, I also don't do the whole sarcasm/teasing/bantering (or flirting, where it applies), because that's just not how I am. And I don't have a lot of wild/reckless/drinking/partying stories.

Indecision and self-doubt/lack of confidence are probably my biggest enemies. But what to do about it, I don't know.
 
Definitely!!!! I get anxious and stressed out. I always have. I'm totally fine being around one other person. But, if there is more then one person I stress even if they are both my friends. Being at a family reunion would be a panic situation.

But, I forced myself to pretend and appear to be comfortable so I could function. I don't do that any more.
 
My situation is funny to you, is it @theablekingathelstan ?

At least people want to hang out with me.

At least I'm not some weird paranoid 40+ year old man that doesn't even make sense half the time, and the other half sounds like an overgrown teenager.

Seriously I'm surprised you're able to make it on your own, I don't know how someone who thinks like you can function out in the real world with all of your paranoias and picking random fights with strangers over nonissues.
 
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I find it more exhausting than hard. I have been turning to the "I'm old and tired" excuse to leave more often these days.
 
My situation is funny to you, is it @theablekingathelstan ?

At least people want to hang out with me.

At least I'm not some weird paranoid 40+ year old man that doesn't even make sense half the time, and the other half sounds like an overgrown teenager.

Seriously I'm surprised you're able to make it on your own, I don't know how someone who thinks like you can function out in the real world with all of your paranoias and picking random fights with strangers over nonissues.
Mate don't react it's what s/he wants.
 
I find it difficult most of the time, people usually want me to entertain them rather than just hangout. It's particularly hard with guys as everything turns into a competition or one-upmanship, most of my close friends are girls which brings up a whole host of awkward social situations.
 
I find it difficult most of the time, people usually want me to entertain them rather than just hangout. It's particularly hard with guys as everything turns into a competition or one-upmanship, most of my close friends are girls which brings up a whole host of awkward social situations.

I can see how that can happen, and how it can be tiring.

Still I wish I had that option though. It would be cool to be able to entertain or hang out. I can only hang out.

It's something I'd like to fix but I'm not sure if I can.
 
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Depends on the situation. A big party with tons of people and lots of commotion around? I'd be the wallflower awkwardly standing in the corner, wishing to hell for an escape route. A small gathering of one or two others? Again, depends on the people there. If I know them well, then I'm fairly comfortable. If I don't, then it can be really uncomfortable. But again, it depends - if I have to carry the conversation, it's much harder. If the people I'm with are more extroverted and talkative, it might be easier. But maybe not. . . those people might be too talkative for my taste and overwhelm me. . .

Hahaha. . . sheesh. Reading back over this paragraph I just wrote, I think the easy and straightforward answer to the question is: it depends. :ROFLMAO: :unsure: ;)
 
Depends on the situation. A big party with tons of people and lots of commotion around? I'd be the wallflower awkwardly standing in the corner, wishing to hell for an escape route. A small gathering of one or two others? Again, depends on the people there. If I know them well, then I'm fairly comfortable. If I don't, then it can be really uncomfortable. But again, it depends - if I have to carry the conversation, it's much harder. If the people I'm with are more extroverted and talkative, it might be easier. But maybe not. . . those people might be too talkative for my taste and overwhelm me. . .

Hahaha. . . sheesh. Reading back over this paragraph I just wrote, I think the easy and straightforward answer to the question is: it depends. :ROFLMAO: :unsure: ;)
Are you sure you want to take such a firm stance? Ha! ha!
 
I can see how that can happen, and how it can be tiring.

Still I wish I had that option though. It would be cool to be able to entertain or hang out. I can only hang out.

It's something I'd like to fix but I'm not sure if I can.

You can change this-- speaking as someone who used to have a brain that went blank.

Although the way I did it was really painful and should never have taken so long. It got to the point where I couldn't get anyone to give me the time of day. I had to push myself further and further out of my comfort zone (silence, responding not initiating). It also took a lot of being treated unfairly at work and in other situations, due to being quiet and a pushover. I started to catch people in little lies and hypocrisies, acting very immature for adults. The issue is that it took a LONG time to see people for what they are, and stop automatically placing myself below them.

And kabam, now I say whatever honeysuckle I wanna say. Nobody's opinion really matters to me anyway, because I'm never around people I actually want to get to know, and who I hope will want to know me. So maybe that's it, lol :\
 

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