Starting over. Might need help

[Dabnis_Brickey]

So yea, I have come to realize that my social skills are honeysuckle. I am unable to start new relationships and rely on others to attempt something instead. The relationships I do have are flimsy and mostly because of me. I tend to distance myself from others - especially when I feel they are getting close.

Soooooooo.... I am going to attempt to start all over. Forget all the stuff I thought I knew about human relations. Forget all the skills I thought I had. I essentially want to destroy that part of myself and rebuild.

Of course, I don't trust myself to rebuild if I made the first piece of honeysuckle. No sense in hiring the same contractor if he was garbage the first time. So the question I have is: Anyone have any suggestions? Books? Videos? Advice? Or whatever-the-fresia else?

 

[Locke]

No real advice since I'm working on social skills too. I mostly just wanted to wish you luck. My suggestion is don't let fear ever stop you from trying new ways to approach and talk to people.

 

[cicerolion]

Read either Predictably Irrational or Upside of Irrationality by Dan Ariely. They are both good explorations of human behavior.

 

[Dabnis_Brickey]

No real advice since I'm working on social skills too. I mostly just wanted to wish you luck. My suggestion is don't let fear ever stop you from trying new ways to approach and talk to people.

Thanks! I might try to encorporate some ngaf into the mix to quell the fear. Not sure if that is the best approach but I shall see.

Read either Predictably Irrational or Upside of Irrationality by Dan Ariely. They are both good explorations of human behavior.

Thanks for the suggestions. I will grab them from Amazon

 

[ladyforsaken]

Just talk to people. Socialise. Don't expect anything though, or there'll be disappointments. (But this is just my take on things, it may not be right.)

I can't wait to start my life afresh. That day will come.