ThinkPositive
Well-known member
Why is it that "what do you do?" is one of the first questions people ask when they first meet you? It wouldn't be so bad if they meant it more generally, but it usually means "what do you do for work?"
I'm basically unemployed right now, working a customer service-type job very part-time, and my unemployment is not something I particularly want to discuss with someone I'd just met. Yet, it happens all the time, which immediately a) makes me uncomfortable and awkward since obviously this is not the best confidence-building question b) puts the conversation in a negative direction where we once again discuss the state of the economy, when I'd rather be talking about something more fun.
Actually, even when I *am* employed, the "what do you do?" question doesn't say anything about the kind of person I am, so it's unfortunate that this is one of the first things people want to know about you (and that's the royal "you").
If someone want to get to know me, they should be asking me about my many hobbies and interests, or my volunteer activities, or just what do I do for fun?
I know, I know...I should just learn to be able to say clear and confidently, "I'm currently looking for work, but in the meantime I'm enjoying my summer with all the free time I have!" (which can then lead to "oh, like what?"), or even "I'm currently looking for work...my skills are X, Y, and Z, do you know of any job opportunities?"
...but you know, easier said than done. I usually end up mumbling sheepishly.
I'm basically unemployed right now, working a customer service-type job very part-time, and my unemployment is not something I particularly want to discuss with someone I'd just met. Yet, it happens all the time, which immediately a) makes me uncomfortable and awkward since obviously this is not the best confidence-building question b) puts the conversation in a negative direction where we once again discuss the state of the economy, when I'd rather be talking about something more fun.
Actually, even when I *am* employed, the "what do you do?" question doesn't say anything about the kind of person I am, so it's unfortunate that this is one of the first things people want to know about you (and that's the royal "you").
If someone want to get to know me, they should be asking me about my many hobbies and interests, or my volunteer activities, or just what do I do for fun?
I know, I know...I should just learn to be able to say clear and confidently, "I'm currently looking for work, but in the meantime I'm enjoying my summer with all the free time I have!" (which can then lead to "oh, like what?"), or even "I'm currently looking for work...my skills are X, Y, and Z, do you know of any job opportunities?"
...but you know, easier said than done. I usually end up mumbling sheepishly.