Rodent said:
No, it wasn't. You're just another example, DM. A rather personal example in my case.
Either it was and I'm an example for you, or it wasn't and you weren't using me as an example at all.
You can't have it both ways.
But since I already knew what you were getting at, since you hate me so much for whatever reason, I knew you were directing that post at me. So I'm not sure why you pretend to hide it. I'm not sure why you'd deny it, either. I'm certainly not stupid. I see past those silly sorts of games.
Rodent said:
You obviously did not forget since you felt adressed though. Which is good, cause neither did I. Since that statement is based on an assumption, I won't even question why you think you can claim my reasons were "wrong" for they were personal.
Just like an opinion can be wrong, someone's reasons can be wrong.
For example, an opinion based on incorrect information they were given. Just look at politics in America as an example of those sorts of "opinions". Their reasons for their political support are just as valid, which is to say not valid at all.
In this case it is your personal reasons which are based on me being someone I'm not. Your assumptions and beliefs and confusion of things you believe of me but are simply not true. Because you didn't spend a moment to fully understand what I was trying to say before rejecting that communication. And I unknowingly touched on some nerves, which set you off.
Even still, I'm not sure why you have to take everything I say as something against you. Did you not just say you have a self-admitted culprit-mentality and not a victim-mentality? Then why do you always act like the victim when I reply to you? I don't get it. I really don't. Of course I also don't know you well, either.
Rodent said:
Otherwise we'll just repeat the procedure. Mind that I do remember your proclaimed reason for trying to help me was that you "just have to do this"...it was enough for me.
Thank you for pointing this out.
It is an excellent example of taking something I said the wrong way and turning yourself into the victim, rather than actually being a victim.
I'm also not sure why you believe this is off-topic. I think it's perfectly fitting given the situation. This problem demonstrates the importance of truly understanding the difference of actually being a victim and simply identifying yourself as one.
Rodent said:
There are plenty of fish in the sea and I'm not afraid of letting some off the hook for good. For my own mental safety. So let's just keep it as it is.
You have admitted in the past that you aren't afraid of hurting yourself, and that it is unimportant to you if you do, if it ensures others' safety. So what "mental safety" is there for you in this? What is true and what isn't? Who are you trying to protect, yourself or others? Whenever you try to argue like this every time it seems to contradict something else that you have said in the past. Why is that?
Furthermore,
You have yet to learn anything about me and you make all these assumptions, but I think you do know one thing about me: I do not just leave things the way they are. I change things. Whether you believe I change them for the worse or the better is entirely up to you, but I think you must admit this. I do change things. It's not just something that I do, it's everything that I am. It's my very essence.
So maybe you don't know me, but I think you know better than to ask me to just keep things the way they are. That's probably the last thing you'd ever want to say to someone like me. It goes against everything I believe.
But I'm not arrogant or proud. I admit that I am not perfect. Maybe you are right and that I have harmed you. Maybe I've harmed a lot of people. Maybe everything I do and everything I believe is wrong.
However, the fact is you're not the first person to question me, nor will you be the last. I have always been the most skeptical critic of myself and my beliefs. And so if what I do is wrong despite everything I do to try to make it right, then all I ask is that you have some sympathy for such a poor wretch like me.
@ the current topic of Callie's comments:
No need to be insulting. I've not gotten along with Callie in the past, either. But I do think she means well. You just have to look beyond the harsh exterior.
One thing I've learned that is very important to actually being a victim is forgiveness. You will always be the victim so long as you cannot forgive those who victimize you. Being able to let those things go is what allows you to be free from that.
As opposed: People who wish to be the victim (victim-mentality) cannot forgive, because there is no one to forgive but themselves. And that is why they so strongly believe they are the victim. They constantly bully themselves.