It was Mine
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This thread is kind of an attempt to describe to women why men in long term relationships feel angry or resent if the sex dies down or stops. It is in no way meant to offend. But just a kind of understanding.
I've been in a couple of long term relationships where my partners sex drive dies right down, and doesn't understand why sex is so important. And the same thing comes up "guys are all the same". It must be a huge problem because the internet is full of men complaining their partners have lost interest in sex. And the women don't understand why it bothers guys so much. Well I am going to describe a crude analogy but may offer some insight to our one main primitive instinct.
Imagine you buy this beautiful new car, It's the car you have always wanted and dreamt of. Only exception is you have no warranty and there is no way to fix the car if something is to happen. First couple of months, maybe years go by great, no problems. All of a sudden the car Sporadically does not start. All of a sudden your stuck walking everywhere. You feel angry because you've invested everything into this car and now it won't start. you have no money you can't just buy a new one. There's no fixing the old one. You think how much better life would be if you could just drive it once and awhile, but you can't, your stuck walking. You have all these feelings of resentment and build up anger over it. Eventually it consumes you and your mind does not get off the subject of how much different life could be. And at this point..usually it's decided something has to change.
Again it's not to offend or ANYTHING like that. It's a crude insight to how I believe mens primitive side thinks. I honestly believe most wish they didn't think that way, they know how cruel and selfish it is. But it consumes them and eventually defeats them. I dunno you'd have to go through it to truly understand it. If you've seen or read Brief Interviews With Hideous Men, what the men are saying in there is so true it's scary how accurate and primitive the thinking is. But the thoughts are still there. Anyways, thoughts comments? hate?
I've been in a couple of long term relationships where my partners sex drive dies right down, and doesn't understand why sex is so important. And the same thing comes up "guys are all the same". It must be a huge problem because the internet is full of men complaining their partners have lost interest in sex. And the women don't understand why it bothers guys so much. Well I am going to describe a crude analogy but may offer some insight to our one main primitive instinct.
Imagine you buy this beautiful new car, It's the car you have always wanted and dreamt of. Only exception is you have no warranty and there is no way to fix the car if something is to happen. First couple of months, maybe years go by great, no problems. All of a sudden the car Sporadically does not start. All of a sudden your stuck walking everywhere. You feel angry because you've invested everything into this car and now it won't start. you have no money you can't just buy a new one. There's no fixing the old one. You think how much better life would be if you could just drive it once and awhile, but you can't, your stuck walking. You have all these feelings of resentment and build up anger over it. Eventually it consumes you and your mind does not get off the subject of how much different life could be. And at this point..usually it's decided something has to change.
Again it's not to offend or ANYTHING like that. It's a crude insight to how I believe mens primitive side thinks. I honestly believe most wish they didn't think that way, they know how cruel and selfish it is. But it consumes them and eventually defeats them. I dunno you'd have to go through it to truly understand it. If you've seen or read Brief Interviews With Hideous Men, what the men are saying in there is so true it's scary how accurate and primitive the thinking is. But the thoughts are still there. Anyways, thoughts comments? hate?