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Nearly all my exes pursued me, not because I'm a prize but because I spent a lot of years being either too shy to try, too stoned to notice, or too hurt too try again.
I love aggressive chicks.
I love aggressive chicks.
EveWasFramed said:This could be a very hot-button topic, so everyone be civil and respectful.
This is an issue that I've heard conflicting opinions on.
I can only relate my own personal experience and would like to hear what others have experienced. Opinions are welcome, but I'm especially interested in actual experiences. Experiences from both male and female are highly desired.
Again, I'd like to ask that no one gets ugly, but that we just discuss the matter like adults.
OK, my experience when doing the "chasing" so to speak....
Anytime I've done the initiating, it's always ended badly. The relationships were almost always VERY short term. I have often wondered if there is that initial "wow, she's interested in me and letting me know" surprise/feeling and then when it fades, so does the man's interest. Oh I'm sure there are a multitude of reasons why initial attraction fades, but based on my own reasoning (and experiences), I do wonder if being the pursuer plays a large part in it. I have often wondered if perhaps (subconsciously) people don't appreciate things as much if they didn't have to work for them, so to speak.
I've heard varying opinions from men. One opinion is that they enjoy being pursued. Other opinions (even ones I've read on this very forum) suggest that the man wonders if the woman is "desperate" or "just how many men has she been with" if she's bold enough to do the chasing.
What do you guys (and gals ) think?
EveWasFramed said:OK...for those of you who claim to like aggressive women/women who case/initiate, here's another question.
What if it's UNWANTED attention? How do you decline the attention?
kamya said:EveWasFramed said:OK...for those of you who claim to like aggressive women/women who case/initiate, here's another question.
What if it's UNWANTED attention? How do you decline the attention?
Have had this experience with gay men a few times. Tell them you aren't interested :O
EveWasFramed said:OK...for those of you who claim to like aggressive women/women who case/initiate, here's another question.
What if it's UNWANTED attention? How do you decline the attention?
EveWasFramed said:OK...for those of you who claim to like aggressive women/women who case/initiate, here's another question.
What if it's UNWANTED attention? How do you decline the attention?
EveWasFramed said:OK...for those of you who claim to like aggressive women/women who case/initiate, here's another question.
What if it's UNWANTED attention? How do you decline the attention?
OnlyMe said:EveWasFramed said:OK...for those of you who claim to like aggressive women/women who case/initiate, here's another question.
What if it's UNWANTED attention? How do you decline the attention?
Definitely be honest and upfront about it.
As someone who has been rejected numerous times, the thing that annoys me the most is when someone doesn't even have enough respect to be honest about why they're not interested.
AJ1982 said:OnlyMe said:EveWasFramed said:OK...for those of you who claim to like aggressive women/women who case/initiate, here's another question.
What if it's UNWANTED attention? How do you decline the attention?
Definitely be honest and upfront about it.
As someone who has been rejected numerous times, the thing that annoys me the most is when someone doesn't even have enough respect to be honest about why they're not interested.
Definitely, I was on the end of rejection on a dating site, and the lady couldn't have been nicer about it, she just said she was flattered but She wasn't interested in me can't remember te exact words sorry, but I cam away from that thinking at least she was easy on me and that was that. I respected her for it.
FauxReaL said:Sorry. I sort of just spilled my guts, but that's what this place is here for right?
jd7 said:FauxReaL said:Sorry. I sort of just spilled my guts, but that's what this place is here for right?
Yep. Good job, by the way! . Sounds like you took care of business...
Alma lost her spoon said:Men generally don't approach me, like ever.
I'm comfortable with this, it's always been this way.
Minty said:I did ask a guy out once. He said no. I never bothered again.
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