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I believe acting on urges were brought up by Anon 6156: OP by Anon: "My friend told me that I need to accept myself for what I am because it can't be helped. I am what I am and that can't be changed. She convinced me that there's nothing inherently wrong with what I am. There would only be...

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Your OP is the most personal post I have ever read. You are brave, troubled enough to ask for help, and so far, able to resist acting on your desires. Those are all commendable. My only FWIW advice I offer is to avoid all opportunities for acting on your urges. You need to not trust yourself in...

Are there specific things that make a person friendly (or appear friendly) interesting (or appear interesting) approachable (or appear approachable? Are their "vibes" people give off or mannerisms or whatever? Sometimes even before you talk to them? Thus the "appear" friendly,interesting...

I agree, and I completely understand what you are saying. Unfortunately for someone with social anxiety, common courtesy of showing an interest and contributing something worthwhile to propel a conversation, can fail for any number of reasons. I guess lively conversations just appear so much...

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Thanks, Tropical Starfish I can definitely get caught up in the fear and excitment and novelty of a conversation that I talk too much about myself or freeze up and offer just tidbits of tadbits. If I am not getting too personal, TS, would you give any specifics of exactly what you might find...

Trailer Trish's thread "One way conversation" got me wondering: What is an ideal conversation? or maybe better What is an ideal conversationalist? Since conversations are something I rarely get to practice except with a couple family members, I had never really thought about how poor my...

Likes: -I love animals (though am not a vegetarian) I have taken in several strays over the years and my pets are always super well cared for. Heck, our chickens had a 5 star environment -I also have a big heart for the elderly. I never find their stories boring and like to visit them. I find...

Tough question. All three have each been such a profound characteristic of my life. I guess I would have to say failure. Excluding the internet, I have avoided rejection and humiliation by becoming a hermit. Not something I recommend btw. However failure is always with me. I can't even avoid...

Hello! :) I can relate to "lost a lot of my optimistic self and become somthing of a cynical misanthrope", but it stems from an opposite situation. Maybe a new group of friends, a new type, a new interest, would change how you feel? I'm not saying abandon your current friends but maybe you've...

Yes! You are exactly right. People won't develop a friendship with me but they have no trouble asking me to babysit, lead a group, be the treasurer, and even confide in my like I couldn't possibly be the gossip type---yet absolutely no friendships. People think I'm somehow uber responsible...

LOL, My husband would like that. It would give him an excuse to get more tats!

Thx! but I need a few more clues lol What is (d), (crs), (un), (ono)? Those are great smileys (sp?) btw, new to me. My phone and as well as some other forums are much less animated and discernable for me. mug

Aside from the real possibility of 0 Friends, I fear handling it successfully because I find Facebook a social mystery. A landmine of social dilemmas and fears. I would hate (or maybe fear) making social interaction decisions on such a scale as Facebook. mug

Anyone on here ever painfully shy and quiet in school and therefore get preferrential treatment from teachers which makes the other kids angry at you which causes you to retreat more, causing the teacher to favor you more and thus the cycle repeats? I remember I skipped class once to buy...

Okay, didn't know if I was the only one. thx

Anyone else baffled by what smilies actually are representing. I can decipher the smile, grin, wink, and a couple others, but I honestly cannot figure out what mood/emotion/etc most smilies represent. I bring it up because I recently took a "read the person's face" quiz and failed miserably...

New here: Does everyone else get dating site, etc, ads in a lot of the posts on each thread? Can they be stopped? I am pretty computer illiterate. I can shop, read and post that's about it-- LOL Oh, and occasionally use smilies. thx, mug

Hello and Welcome! What is Portugal like? I've been to Spain but I didn't get to Portugal. I'd love to hear about your country. mug