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I just need to share.  Just fyi I am older than you guys. Well into middle age. I live in a city where I used to socialize with a few other women my age. We are all in the vegan community and we had that in common. A few years back, one of the women and I, formed a social club.  I ended up...

I am triggered by the smallest change and good bye.   I can send me into a depression as I feel right now. I have a neighbor.  A single woman around my age.   When I moved in two years ago we had chats and i enjoyed them. Then she got mad at me for being loud on the phone (my reception was poor...

Not sure if I posted about this before. I am part organizer of a social group.  I have a partner who helps me.  I am in my 50s she is around 70. We've been on friendly terms.  When we discuss things they are pretty much positive. We've shared a few things about our personal lives. For...

I had a difficult day today (you can see my other post called "Left out AGAIN") but in all the pain I had today, I had a light bulb moment. Have you ever heard about attracting what is in your consciousness? That is what you think and believe you attract? I am thinking many of us who have the...

Hi.  I am 52 year old female. I run a meetup with a 70 year old woman. We have run the meet up together for years and had a good working relationship. I just found out today she invited a bunch of others for lunch for her birthday and did not invite me.  It wasn't even that close friends, she...

This is echoed in various spiritual books. But today it came in the form of "The Secret". What do you guys think? I know in my life I think my low feelings about myself have definitely caused others to downgrade me. Your actions are your powerful thoughts, so if you do not treat yourself...

Just wanted to share an idea I learned in one of my spiritual books that helped me a lot. The message is "if someone is not receptive to you, rejects you or ignores you, it means they are not open to your energy". I am paraphrasing here but that is the jist. This really helped me sooo much...

Hi Guys... I wonder what you think of my new way of dealing with those who are not so warm to me or subtley reject me, etc. Okay, in the past, especially when I was a young adult, I'd unconsciously seek approval from those who rejected me or were cold to me. In my mind, I guess I thought if I...

I've been thinking about the pain of my life recently and it comes down to this: I feel very unimportant/worthwhile to others. And it hurts. And I don't know why. Interestingly enough, I've had no trouble finding romantic love in my life. I've had my share of men who love and appreciate...

Okay, it's not that big a deal but I feel so disappointed right now! I think this disappointed reflects upon my loneliness!!! I am in a long term relationship. We planned to do a "pumpkin night" here in the city with another couple and others. We got the tickets and everything weeks ago. I...

Hi. Just wanted to share. I have come to know a 44 year old educated guy who has said to me he has had issues with women ("they are always telling me what I am doing wrong") and with keeping professional jobs ("I am a misfit"). When I first got to know him I didn't understand why. He seemed...

I know it's my problem but tonight, I am just feeling that for ONCE, I wish people would stop bragging on FB on their wonderful familial lives, good times, etc. WHY do people need to do this? I have good times and some good things in my life but I don't need to post them. I am more private...

Okay, I need your help. Today I was socially rejected and I would like support in dealing with it. I am in a bike group. It's mostly women and we've done long day rides and even longer trips. We've grown to know each other. This has become one of my social outlets. One of the gals, "J"...

I love all forum members posts but it would be really great to have forums with more similar ages. That is because we tend to relate more easily to those of similar age...ages and stages. Perhaps forums for each decade? For each decade has it's own challenges.

It's my birthday today. I am turning 47. For some reason, probably self esteem reasons, I cannot celebrate my birthday. I can't ask others to "do" anything for it so I just don't. Perhaps I worry they won't come thru for me and I'll feel rejected. I don't know. For as long as I can remember...

I can't believe it! I am okay, calm, etc but I can't believe my new pal is suddenly giving me the "ice". In the last two months or so I've developed a friendship with a 60 year old neighbor. She had a very interesting and strong personality. Very academic. While I would not say she was my best...

Hi. I am feeling grateful because I've been experiencing more friendliness, support, love and even fun lately. I am not sure what is causing the change but what I've been doing for some time now is thanking the universe for ANY friendliness, caring, support love that comes my way and also being...

I just posted these two very helpful websites about friendship in the articles section down below. But I wanted to post here, too, so that they are not missed: http://www.succeedsocially.com/notinterested http://www.2knowmyself.com/Why_dont_people_like_me I think they will be helpful. The...

Wow so many helpful articles on friendship! http://www.2knowmyself.com/Why_dont_people_like_me http://www.succeedsocially.com/notinterested

I had a really nice experience today. I went to the Salon to get my hair cut and colored. I like going to this Salon because the girls there are so friendly and so unprententious and guess what, I can bring my dogs. And usually when I go there is always some chit chat conversation but...