Being thoughtful would seem like something good, yet there have been numerous occasions where being thoughtful has backfired on me...
I had been hanging out with a girl for about a month. I saw some bears holding letters and thought it would be nice to get the ones that spelled her name. Well, when I told her I had something for her she gave me this look that made me regret saying anything. I literally just wanted to get out of there, but of course I was already too deep in so I gave her the bears. I will never forget that look :S
On this same girl's birthday (several months later), I gave her two things I knew she would like: a pair of earrings she had mentioned she wanted to get someday to complete her collection of pieces by the same artist (and these earrings weren't expensive or anything) and a Jack Sparrow t-shirt (she was a big Pirates Of The Caribbean fan). Anyhow, I dropped the gift off at her apartment (she wasn't home when I went). Later I got a call from her saying that a call saying happy birthday would have been enough. I have also had other instances where have told me not to think of them...
Anyhow, there are more incidents but I think that is enough for now. It makes me question everything I plan to do for someone now because I am afraid they will react negatively. So I keep asking myself why so thoughtful? Am I wrong for thinking about other people? It is very frustrating. It makes me feel like I do not matter... so much darkness in my life
I had been hanging out with a girl for about a month. I saw some bears holding letters and thought it would be nice to get the ones that spelled her name. Well, when I told her I had something for her she gave me this look that made me regret saying anything. I literally just wanted to get out of there, but of course I was already too deep in so I gave her the bears. I will never forget that look :S
On this same girl's birthday (several months later), I gave her two things I knew she would like: a pair of earrings she had mentioned she wanted to get someday to complete her collection of pieces by the same artist (and these earrings weren't expensive or anything) and a Jack Sparrow t-shirt (she was a big Pirates Of The Caribbean fan). Anyhow, I dropped the gift off at her apartment (she wasn't home when I went). Later I got a call from her saying that a call saying happy birthday would have been enough. I have also had other instances where have told me not to think of them...
Anyhow, there are more incidents but I think that is enough for now. It makes me question everything I plan to do for someone now because I am afraid they will react negatively. So I keep asking myself why so thoughtful? Am I wrong for thinking about other people? It is very frustrating. It makes me feel like I do not matter... so much darkness in my life