Case
Well-known member
I feel like I am waiting to die.
I feel like I look at the calendar and wonder how much closer I am to the end, wondering why I haven't seemed to matter to anyone, at least in any lasting way.
My life is a drudgery of meaningless tasks that leads me back to the same spot every Monday morning. My weekdays start with waking up, then going to work, coming home, eating, and finally, sleeping. I do that five times a week, and then the weekend arrives where I receive no phone calls, no texts, no emails, no party invites, no contact with the outside world aside from the anonymous online world.
I have a bunch of what I call 'Facebook friends." They are the kind who love to click "Like" on a picture or a status update I post, but will say "No, thanks" to drinks or a get-together. I have two real friends in my life, and I fear I'd drive them away if I contacted them too much. I don't know how I'd feel if I lost them. Worse than I do now, certainly.
I have no close family members, and even one who is close in distance to me chooses to shut me out of his life for reasons too complex to mention here.
So, I sit here on a Sunday blazing through selections on NetFlix hoping to distract myself from my loneliness. It is a good distraction because I can either learn something, be thrilled by something, or even feel an emotion about something. Then, that NetFlix selection ends and I am back in the real world again, waiting to die.
I have little motivation to go outside unless it's a routine errand. Therefore, I tend to remain indoors while others all around are having barbeques, parties, and other social gatherings. I would text one of my real friends and try to set up a meeting, but occasionally they would talk of having to attend some big family function. You know, the kind that I can never have. Honestly, I am understanding, but I retreat that much further into my cave.
This thread should not be seen as an outcry of "Oh, woe is me." The reality of my life is clear to me. I do okay financially, I have my health, and I'm not going to starve or go into debt. Also, I understand that I am not suffering like others have, so it's really not as bad as it could be.
But I realize that life is passing me by and I seem to have little energy to grab it by the tail before it leaves me for good.
I've tried dating sites to meet people, and it usually lasts for a short while before fizzling out. So, I've stopped thinking of that dating rubbish even though the idea of a close relationship is about as intoxicating to me as anything I can imagine. I've looked at Meetup.com for ideas, so if I joined platonic groups of people with like-minds, I might be able to find a fuller social life.
I simply don't want to stay in this pattern. I want to be like the friends I had who seem so fulfilled, or at least, so busy. In contrast, I feel like someone hit the pause button on my life while the lives of others are moving past me at a rapid rate.
If you stuck through to the end of this thread's beginning, I thank you for reading this. I know longer messages are often ignored on forums, so I truly appreciate you getting to this point. If you wish to make a comment or offer a solution that you have tried, feel free to let me know.
Thanks again!
I feel like I look at the calendar and wonder how much closer I am to the end, wondering why I haven't seemed to matter to anyone, at least in any lasting way.
My life is a drudgery of meaningless tasks that leads me back to the same spot every Monday morning. My weekdays start with waking up, then going to work, coming home, eating, and finally, sleeping. I do that five times a week, and then the weekend arrives where I receive no phone calls, no texts, no emails, no party invites, no contact with the outside world aside from the anonymous online world.
I have a bunch of what I call 'Facebook friends." They are the kind who love to click "Like" on a picture or a status update I post, but will say "No, thanks" to drinks or a get-together. I have two real friends in my life, and I fear I'd drive them away if I contacted them too much. I don't know how I'd feel if I lost them. Worse than I do now, certainly.
I have no close family members, and even one who is close in distance to me chooses to shut me out of his life for reasons too complex to mention here.
So, I sit here on a Sunday blazing through selections on NetFlix hoping to distract myself from my loneliness. It is a good distraction because I can either learn something, be thrilled by something, or even feel an emotion about something. Then, that NetFlix selection ends and I am back in the real world again, waiting to die.
I have little motivation to go outside unless it's a routine errand. Therefore, I tend to remain indoors while others all around are having barbeques, parties, and other social gatherings. I would text one of my real friends and try to set up a meeting, but occasionally they would talk of having to attend some big family function. You know, the kind that I can never have. Honestly, I am understanding, but I retreat that much further into my cave.
This thread should not be seen as an outcry of "Oh, woe is me." The reality of my life is clear to me. I do okay financially, I have my health, and I'm not going to starve or go into debt. Also, I understand that I am not suffering like others have, so it's really not as bad as it could be.
But I realize that life is passing me by and I seem to have little energy to grab it by the tail before it leaves me for good.
I've tried dating sites to meet people, and it usually lasts for a short while before fizzling out. So, I've stopped thinking of that dating rubbish even though the idea of a close relationship is about as intoxicating to me as anything I can imagine. I've looked at Meetup.com for ideas, so if I joined platonic groups of people with like-minds, I might be able to find a fuller social life.
I simply don't want to stay in this pattern. I want to be like the friends I had who seem so fulfilled, or at least, so busy. In contrast, I feel like someone hit the pause button on my life while the lives of others are moving past me at a rapid rate.
If you stuck through to the end of this thread's beginning, I thank you for reading this. I know longer messages are often ignored on forums, so I truly appreciate you getting to this point. If you wish to make a comment or offer a solution that you have tried, feel free to let me know.
Thanks again!