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IceCastles
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I've been triggered for the past while because my coworkers have been talking casually about ghosting certain "friends". They are more than glad to tell me why but IMO the reasons are not substantive enough to me. One coworker has been friends with someone since jr high and feels that the friend doesn't fit into her new life anymore (she's in a relationship, that friend is not etc.). So she's just going to ghost her.
When I asked if there was something wrong that she did or maybe they can talk; coworker said it's not worth it. She's got plenty of other friends.
This triggered me because I'm that person that gets ghosted all of the time. The worst part is that ghosters do not make it clear that they don't want to be your friend. What they do essentially is that they "fade away". So they'll answer 75% of your texts...then 50%...then less and less. I was epically ghosted by a girl and stood up like 7 times. She would become very friendly and then disappear. Repeat and repeat. I was confused at the time, but now I realize her whole plan was to ghost me all along. Whereas I simply believed her endless reasons of "last-minute conflicts" coming up. I become very angry when I think of her because I now realize that she's become good friends with a popular girl that hates me (I didn't do anything...I've been super nice etc but she says I'm too weird and purposely would exclude me from everything or ask people to stay away from me or badmouth me. Btw, this "friend" of mine did not even defend me but instead just listened to the badmouthing).
This is such a trigger for me because I've been abandoned by so many people all of my life. I'm overlooked and excluded. At 18 I started working very hard and now I'm almost 30 and nothing has changed.
***Warning: Possible trigger for some readers...***
By a miracle I met my hubby...but if I hadn't, I think I would have offed myself. I was truly in a dark and horrible abusive place and had suicidal thoughts all of the time. Even though I have him I still have this longing for friends that I've had all of my life.
I've tried so many different methods...really putting in heavy efforts and also drawing back etc. I feel like...I don't think I'll ever have true friends. Are people so fake? Or am I soooo unlikeable and simply don't interest people enough to share a friendship?
When I asked if there was something wrong that she did or maybe they can talk; coworker said it's not worth it. She's got plenty of other friends.
This triggered me because I'm that person that gets ghosted all of the time. The worst part is that ghosters do not make it clear that they don't want to be your friend. What they do essentially is that they "fade away". So they'll answer 75% of your texts...then 50%...then less and less. I was epically ghosted by a girl and stood up like 7 times. She would become very friendly and then disappear. Repeat and repeat. I was confused at the time, but now I realize her whole plan was to ghost me all along. Whereas I simply believed her endless reasons of "last-minute conflicts" coming up. I become very angry when I think of her because I now realize that she's become good friends with a popular girl that hates me (I didn't do anything...I've been super nice etc but she says I'm too weird and purposely would exclude me from everything or ask people to stay away from me or badmouth me. Btw, this "friend" of mine did not even defend me but instead just listened to the badmouthing).
This is such a trigger for me because I've been abandoned by so many people all of my life. I'm overlooked and excluded. At 18 I started working very hard and now I'm almost 30 and nothing has changed.
***Warning: Possible trigger for some readers...***
By a miracle I met my hubby...but if I hadn't, I think I would have offed myself. I was truly in a dark and horrible abusive place and had suicidal thoughts all of the time. Even though I have him I still have this longing for friends that I've had all of my life.
I've tried so many different methods...really putting in heavy efforts and also drawing back etc. I feel like...I don't think I'll ever have true friends. Are people so fake? Or am I soooo unlikeable and simply don't interest people enough to share a friendship?