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Avoiding people - because of what they said
#1
Ok we are back to this a fresh wound. I avoid people 
Who made comments that seemed to have cut deep for me.
Then I avoid them. Forever. It comes from deep insecuritity 
No one here gets the gist of it. Some sick lady 2 years ago said her sister thought i was a guy wanted in bank for suspicious activity. Thought i was guy in photo. Looked nothing like me. Don't even know how her sister knows me she is like 60 this lady. Now how does her sister know me. I never liked this woman to begin with. Now I leary evry time I step outside I might run into her and it will set me back in a depressiiom and anxitey.

I mean she is a despicable woman. But made things worse
After she said this
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#2
Who would you like to look like?
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#3
(02-14-2017, 12:04 PM)AmytheTemperamental Wrote: Who would you like to look like?

What? I know that I don't look like some crazy guy on a wanted poster. That some sick psychotic woman and her sister say its me!!

This topic is not who I want to look like. Or who I wouldnt mind look8ng like. Or who I wouldnt mind being mistaken for
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#4
Yeah, I know. I was just being the change I wish to see..
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#5
This is a fear now. Where it grips me.
I blame it on being so strong. On having no close intimate relationships with women. Callie says a woman or sex won't fix me. I bet if i spent enough time with a woman who was truly into me. I would overcome what some lunatic said to me 20 mins ago

It's only because I don't have that. And no prospects of that.
Which can make me so painfully vulnerable insecure. Like a newborn babybird just came out of its shell shivering in the cold

Yes being in a relationship. Having sex. Knowing you can have sex. Helps. Eases so much of that pent of anxitey. 

Knowing you can set up a date. Instead of waking alone all the time letting it fester and build up

I was talking about this with my brother. Seriously. 

II said should it really be so hard to meet someone you are attracted to for even a coffee? Should it really take months. Weeks. To maybe get someone who is in agreement with you? Might consider you.  I am not hidious by any stretch. 
Not freddy Kruger. I mean..something is wrong  
Yes. I hate photos. Yes. I take weak selfies. Some like them.
But it's me!
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#6
[Image: .eJwNyDEOhSAMANC7sEPVwcEDGK9haoWaBgiUdPj...height=474]

Nice hair.
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#7
And then what about the women who just want some plain old fashioned fun? They exists don't they? Believe me I try.

Be it tinder. Or craigslist.  I mean hey, has to be one girl. 
Who will say? Want to fool aroud. Some fun?  AA drink? 

Wtf??

(02-14-2017, 12:32 PM)AmytheTemperamental Wrote: [Image: .eJwNyDEOhSAMANC7sEPVwcEDGK9haoWaBgiUdPj...height=474]

Nice hair.

Oh har har har har

But you got it. That is exactly what I feel like each morning
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#8
Have you tried changing your routine Restless? go to a different coffee shop or whatever, make a little change just to getused to change, I do agree with Callie that having a woman won't fix your problems.
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(02-17-2017, 06:16 AM)MisterLonely Wrote: Have you tried changing your routine Restless? go to a different coffee shop or whatever, make a little change just to getused to change, I do agree with Callie that having a woman won't fix your problems.

Hi, I see routine and envrioment as being the main contributors
To ffeeding my depression and negative thoughts. My routine i try to change here and there just by getting out of my usual ssurroundings at night for a bit. Seems to help me clear my head. But once again, another big factor is due to being alone so much. Which is obvious. That is a big one too.
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(02-18-2017, 12:59 AM)Restless soul Wrote:
(02-17-2017, 06:16 AM)MisterLonely Wrote: Have you tried changing your routine Restless? go to a different coffee shop or whatever, make a little change just to getused to change, I do agree with Callie that having a woman won't fix your problems.

Hi, I see routine and envrioment as being the main contributors
To ffeeding my depression and negative thoughts. My routine i try to change here and there just by getting out of my usual ssurroundings at night for a bit. Seems to help me clear my head. But once again, another big factor is due to being alone so much. Which is obvious. That is a big one too.

Are you sure the big factor is being alone, and not that being alone is the effect of the negative mindset and depression?
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