poorchoiceofusername
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Hello
I'm a guy from NZ looking for a like mind.
The biggest challenge in my life has been maintaining friendships. I'm gradually getting better at it but loneliness has taken its toll on my psyche. I'm quite heavily depressed (general hopelessness, anxiety, and major episodes every few weeks). This is partly due to loneliness and partly because because of an incredibly traumatic breakup I went through last year.
To help with my loneliness I moved into an area of my home city with a very accepting, active and supportive community. It helps a lot but I still very much long for the company of someone more like myself.
People often call me 'too intense' which I have learned is an expression of the discomfort people feel when exposed to my extreme openness, over-analysis and lack of regard for social context. Sometimes people just want to have a casual, chilled out conversation. But I never really chill out. I'm always too interested.
I've learned to keep most of my thoughts to myself in the interest of social cohesion. I don't mind doing this. I know everyone has to conform to social norms to some extent. No one can truly be themselves. But it is my dream to meet someone who feels as I do that honesty is never inappropriate and that an "intense analysis" of something interesting is always preferable to some "casual, chill small talk".
You don't have to be the person I described to answer this thread. You just have to find me interesting and worthy of your time. Sometimes opposites are very compatible.
I'm a guy from NZ looking for a like mind.
The biggest challenge in my life has been maintaining friendships. I'm gradually getting better at it but loneliness has taken its toll on my psyche. I'm quite heavily depressed (general hopelessness, anxiety, and major episodes every few weeks). This is partly due to loneliness and partly because because of an incredibly traumatic breakup I went through last year.
To help with my loneliness I moved into an area of my home city with a very accepting, active and supportive community. It helps a lot but I still very much long for the company of someone more like myself.
People often call me 'too intense' which I have learned is an expression of the discomfort people feel when exposed to my extreme openness, over-analysis and lack of regard for social context. Sometimes people just want to have a casual, chilled out conversation. But I never really chill out. I'm always too interested.
I've learned to keep most of my thoughts to myself in the interest of social cohesion. I don't mind doing this. I know everyone has to conform to social norms to some extent. No one can truly be themselves. But it is my dream to meet someone who feels as I do that honesty is never inappropriate and that an "intense analysis" of something interesting is always preferable to some "casual, chill small talk".
You don't have to be the person I described to answer this thread. You just have to find me interesting and worthy of your time. Sometimes opposites are very compatible.