Perplexed34
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Hello everyone,
I finally think I found a place with like minded people. I am a 26 year-old graduate student who is mastering in electrical engineering. When I was a kid in primary school, I had to switch schools two times due to being bullied by a mentally disabled child, then due to a teacher who was obsessed with me and beat me repeatedly. These things together with my father's blissful ignorance leaded me to develop low self-esteem and extreme shyness. I am still struggling in my social life and non-existent private life.
My high-school years and university years were also similar; I lacked the social circle most of my friends had, but I was pretty successful academically. Males did not respect me and females just blatantly ignored me throughout these periods. I have been to mental health counselors many times, but they only prescribed medicines and most of them were unable to understand the hardships I was going through. For example they did not think it was possible that someone can have no one to have lunch with and/or no romantic/sexual opportunities. I used many psychiatric drugs, mostly SSRI. Gradually I developed IBS, stomach indigestion problems, gastritis and GERD.
Also I was not a part of any social circle or a group of friends, they just ignored me. One of my oldest friends was a hardcore narcissist and just nourished from my insecurities. He was also mocking me for my social incompetence and total failure with girls. However, I had felt the need to confide in this guy and he used literally everything against me later. We are barely on speaking terms now. In the previous year I also experienced some reciprocated romance for the first time, before I had a severe crush on a girl in my high school. I did not understand the signs she was interested in me at first and began the relationship really late. In the relationship due to these SSRIs, the girl's insecurities and lack of respect etc. I had erectile dysfunction from the start which messed up everything. I should also mention here that I had severe porn consumption before and I still look at images. Furthermore, I have been to several escorts and brothels to quench my desire. The romance started three months after I had met this girl and lasted for 1.5 months. Later she ghosted on me and stringed me along for some time and I tried to be friends.
After this incident I found an escort and went to her a total of 6 times. Now I have made up my mind not to visit escorts again and seek a relationship. However, I am very inhibited around woman and I find it hard to interpret their signals of interest. Lately I probably missed a potential girlfriend due to acting weird. I was reluctant at first, but I built some rapport and invited her out 3 times. Now she is no longer answering anything I send her.
I tried connecting with former friends from high school, but failed in that too. Maybe you will think I am very sedentary, yet the situation is quite the opposite. In my free time I hit the gym, go boxing, sailing and dancing. I also tried various socialization opportunities such as dance classes, language classes etc. but failed in all of them. As far as I am concerned I can also be classified as love-shy. I really appreciate any comments and feedback.
I finally think I found a place with like minded people. I am a 26 year-old graduate student who is mastering in electrical engineering. When I was a kid in primary school, I had to switch schools two times due to being bullied by a mentally disabled child, then due to a teacher who was obsessed with me and beat me repeatedly. These things together with my father's blissful ignorance leaded me to develop low self-esteem and extreme shyness. I am still struggling in my social life and non-existent private life.
My high-school years and university years were also similar; I lacked the social circle most of my friends had, but I was pretty successful academically. Males did not respect me and females just blatantly ignored me throughout these periods. I have been to mental health counselors many times, but they only prescribed medicines and most of them were unable to understand the hardships I was going through. For example they did not think it was possible that someone can have no one to have lunch with and/or no romantic/sexual opportunities. I used many psychiatric drugs, mostly SSRI. Gradually I developed IBS, stomach indigestion problems, gastritis and GERD.
Also I was not a part of any social circle or a group of friends, they just ignored me. One of my oldest friends was a hardcore narcissist and just nourished from my insecurities. He was also mocking me for my social incompetence and total failure with girls. However, I had felt the need to confide in this guy and he used literally everything against me later. We are barely on speaking terms now. In the previous year I also experienced some reciprocated romance for the first time, before I had a severe crush on a girl in my high school. I did not understand the signs she was interested in me at first and began the relationship really late. In the relationship due to these SSRIs, the girl's insecurities and lack of respect etc. I had erectile dysfunction from the start which messed up everything. I should also mention here that I had severe porn consumption before and I still look at images. Furthermore, I have been to several escorts and brothels to quench my desire. The romance started three months after I had met this girl and lasted for 1.5 months. Later she ghosted on me and stringed me along for some time and I tried to be friends.
After this incident I found an escort and went to her a total of 6 times. Now I have made up my mind not to visit escorts again and seek a relationship. However, I am very inhibited around woman and I find it hard to interpret their signals of interest. Lately I probably missed a potential girlfriend due to acting weird. I was reluctant at first, but I built some rapport and invited her out 3 times. Now she is no longer answering anything I send her.
I tried connecting with former friends from high school, but failed in that too. Maybe you will think I am very sedentary, yet the situation is quite the opposite. In my free time I hit the gym, go boxing, sailing and dancing. I also tried various socialization opportunities such as dance classes, language classes etc. but failed in all of them. As far as I am concerned I can also be classified as love-shy. I really appreciate any comments and feedback.