So here I enter a dangerous territory, the one made of generalizations!
This is just from some personal observation and it leads me to wonder. I've always been attracted to cerebral men who have some gift with speaking or charisma. Turns out my experience with them is not so good when it comes to intimacy. To summarize, it's not because there's a beautiful intellectual connection and attraction that it's working in a relationship on a day-to-day basis. Forgive me for not analyzing my own shortcomings in relationships here for it is not part of the the point I'm trying to make. I do remain conscious there are two people in a relationship.
Aside from these, I encountered a number of men near me who seem really interesting but turn out to be a bad idea for a romantic relationship. They are men who are quite intellectual, they may be interested in ideas or spirituality, yoga, creation. They're well-spoken. They may have a creative or intellectual position in life such as professor or creative director. They sound very stimulating for someone with an intellectual bend. But they are in fact not too good in a relationship. For example, one of my friend was with a man interested in aikido, buddhist meditation and other ''hipster interests'' with a creative job. He seems like a very well-balanced and enlightened man on the outside. Turns out he treated her terribly throughout their relationship.
Another of those men that I met was a charismatic intellectual who seemed open to many ideas. He later turned out to be in love with himself and mysogynistic (dislike women). He will avoid relationships with women like the plague (he's not gay but more like asexual or autosexual) and always talk about himself. He will talk to you only to serve his own interests.
It seems these cerebral men have lofty ideas about themselves. This seems to lead them to have high expectations of women and also to treat them badly. So far, my observation of these men leads me to think they are often incompetent, sometimes even dangerous, in romantic relationships. They can be narcissist of the worst kind. My friend who was treated badly started a relationship with a hotel clerk and is now happy. She's avoiding creative types whom she finds mostly involved in themselves. Another friend is happy in a relationship with a mechanics who is contented in life as long as he can drive his motocross in the sandpits. I'm not saying one type is all honeysuckle and the other extraordinary but I'm tempted to think these intellectual/spiritual types are not such good mates. The manual/technical types however seem like Mr. Nice Guys with their more simple tastes and needs, even if they look less dazzling.
I'm not so starry-eyed anymore about the great intellects of men I encounter. Now I'm thinking I should volunteer at the next engineering convention or get myself a sandwich every day at a nearby construction site canteen.
What do you think?
This is just from some personal observation and it leads me to wonder. I've always been attracted to cerebral men who have some gift with speaking or charisma. Turns out my experience with them is not so good when it comes to intimacy. To summarize, it's not because there's a beautiful intellectual connection and attraction that it's working in a relationship on a day-to-day basis. Forgive me for not analyzing my own shortcomings in relationships here for it is not part of the the point I'm trying to make. I do remain conscious there are two people in a relationship.
Aside from these, I encountered a number of men near me who seem really interesting but turn out to be a bad idea for a romantic relationship. They are men who are quite intellectual, they may be interested in ideas or spirituality, yoga, creation. They're well-spoken. They may have a creative or intellectual position in life such as professor or creative director. They sound very stimulating for someone with an intellectual bend. But they are in fact not too good in a relationship. For example, one of my friend was with a man interested in aikido, buddhist meditation and other ''hipster interests'' with a creative job. He seems like a very well-balanced and enlightened man on the outside. Turns out he treated her terribly throughout their relationship.
Another of those men that I met was a charismatic intellectual who seemed open to many ideas. He later turned out to be in love with himself and mysogynistic (dislike women). He will avoid relationships with women like the plague (he's not gay but more like asexual or autosexual) and always talk about himself. He will talk to you only to serve his own interests.
It seems these cerebral men have lofty ideas about themselves. This seems to lead them to have high expectations of women and also to treat them badly. So far, my observation of these men leads me to think they are often incompetent, sometimes even dangerous, in romantic relationships. They can be narcissist of the worst kind. My friend who was treated badly started a relationship with a hotel clerk and is now happy. She's avoiding creative types whom she finds mostly involved in themselves. Another friend is happy in a relationship with a mechanics who is contented in life as long as he can drive his motocross in the sandpits. I'm not saying one type is all honeysuckle and the other extraordinary but I'm tempted to think these intellectual/spiritual types are not such good mates. The manual/technical types however seem like Mr. Nice Guys with their more simple tastes and needs, even if they look less dazzling.
I'm not so starry-eyed anymore about the great intellects of men I encounter. Now I'm thinking I should volunteer at the next engineering convention or get myself a sandwich every day at a nearby construction site canteen.
What do you think?