michael2
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Anyone notice all the advice about how to be sociable usually means being fake, as in not who you really are?
Stuff like learn an instrument. Really? That should only be something you do if you truly have a passion for it.
Be funny, have a good sense of humor. Sorry, but not everybody is Jim Carrey, nor should they have to be. Theres is nothing wrong with being a serious person. This gives variety and spice to life. Would it be good if every single person was primarily serious? No, as it would also not be good if every single person was primarily funny.
Confidence. I've read alot of advice that says you should even fake confidence if you have to in order to be more sociable and likable. Sorry but not everybody is beaming with confidence, nor should they have to be.
My advice is be who you are. Only pursue things that you have a passion in. Dont do stuff just because you think it will score you extra points with the opposite sex or people in general. Will this lead to less friends? Yeah, for sure. But I feel its a much better path
I know being real and who I am has screwed me over in countless job interviews, because being fake wins every time.
When being interviewed for a job in the medical field I could have said the old "Im here because I want to help people" line and scored alot of points. Instead Im true to who I am and I lose out to people who are fake. My sister told me to be fake and lie to and make up answers in interviews because thats what she does to get jobs. I dont do this so I get screwed over. When I was applying for a stocking job the interviewer said I might have to lift a refrigerator onto a truckbed by myself. I told her I would not do anything that might hurt me and she laughed and said 'oh we wouldnt want that' and of course that was the moment in the interview she scratched me off the list.
I honestly dont care, Im going to continue being real and true to myself even if being fake gets you ahead in life.
Stuff like learn an instrument. Really? That should only be something you do if you truly have a passion for it.
Be funny, have a good sense of humor. Sorry, but not everybody is Jim Carrey, nor should they have to be. Theres is nothing wrong with being a serious person. This gives variety and spice to life. Would it be good if every single person was primarily serious? No, as it would also not be good if every single person was primarily funny.
Confidence. I've read alot of advice that says you should even fake confidence if you have to in order to be more sociable and likable. Sorry but not everybody is beaming with confidence, nor should they have to be.
My advice is be who you are. Only pursue things that you have a passion in. Dont do stuff just because you think it will score you extra points with the opposite sex or people in general. Will this lead to less friends? Yeah, for sure. But I feel its a much better path
I know being real and who I am has screwed me over in countless job interviews, because being fake wins every time.
When being interviewed for a job in the medical field I could have said the old "Im here because I want to help people" line and scored alot of points. Instead Im true to who I am and I lose out to people who are fake. My sister told me to be fake and lie to and make up answers in interviews because thats what she does to get jobs. I dont do this so I get screwed over. When I was applying for a stocking job the interviewer said I might have to lift a refrigerator onto a truckbed by myself. I told her I would not do anything that might hurt me and she laughed and said 'oh we wouldnt want that' and of course that was the moment in the interview she scratched me off the list.
I honestly dont care, Im going to continue being real and true to myself even if being fake gets you ahead in life.