All my friends flew away...

[Standalone Sentinel]

It was so good when we were in our early teens, at school, similar interests and goals. I had a number of friends when I was at school. Then, all of a sudden, we became 18.

I still felt the same as I always had - kept my interests and carried on just as I always had, but everyone else found out about... oh no... the pub and getting drunk.

Since then I have never really managed to connect with other people because the only interest people seem to have is how drunk they got at the pub on a Friday night.

Has anyone else experienced this?

As time has gone on I have tried to get people on board to the many interests I have - I am a musician, love long distance walking, swimming, I love art... but the sticking point is I hate pubs and never feel comfortable eating or drinking 'out'. Anywhere I go I have to eat and drink before hand.

I have been unsuccessful in getting any interest. Trying to make conversation with others beyond banal daily drivel like the weather or missing the bus has become impossible. I love to talk in depth - people just say I'm too deep so I gave up on them. All my interests are self-driven with no external stimulus which can get very difficult at times. I am feeling a lot better at the moment although when I registered a few days ago I was feeling low.

Does anyone else get that? You'll be alright for ages and then all of a sudden for no apparent reason you just suddenly get struck down - like something has come down out of the sky and just hammered you into the ground? Some days I feel I just want to curl up and die.

I know I haven't got social phobia - I looked into this and I haven't got it as I am perfectly confident talking to new people in the workplace or otherwise. My problem is going to pubs and drinking/eating places, I just don't feel comfortable. I know that in the right environment I could really get to know like-mindeds and probably escape the rut I'm in, but the social channels available are too limited. I count the days down at work until the weekend and then sit at home depressed because I am lonely.

Oh I'm in such a pickle aren't I?

 

[Bluey]

lol, I might have known you where from the UK with out me even having to look at your profile. Am from the UK as well. Where abouts you from in the UK mate. The dreaded drink,, yes yes yes I have had the same problem has you. If all I wonted to do is drink my self into a stow I could be out every night of the week. Don't get me wrong I do enjoy a drink but not all the time. I do even sometimes get drunk on my own. But it don't take long as I cert handle that much. Am not a big drinker and if I do go to the pub am happy to come back about 3 hours later. Every one I know would go at 11 in the morning and not come back tell 3 the next morning and then do it all again. That is not an exaggeration. That's what they do.

Does anyone else get that? You'll be alright for ages and then all of a sudden for no apparent reason you just suddenly get struck down - like something has come down out of the sky and just hammered you into the ground? Some days I feel I just want to curl up and die.

All the time. I can be OK for ages and then for no reason BANG am feeling just like that. The past two days have been a bit like that for me.

Any way welcome here and I really hope to see you post moor here. You have a lot in comen with me all ready just from what I have read here.

Also am going to move this to the new members forum Sean's its your fist post. I think it well be better there

 

[Standalone Sentinel]

lol, I might have known you where from the UK with out me even having to look at your profile. Am from the UK as well. Where abouts you from in the UK mate. The dreaded drink,, yes yes yes I have had the same problem has you. If all I wonted to do is drink my self into a stow I could be out every night of the week. Don't get me wrong I do enjoy a drink but not all the time. I do even sometimes get drunk on my own. But it don't take long as I cert handle that much. Am not a big drinker and if I do go to the pub am happy to come back about 3 hours later. Every one I know would go at 11 in the morning and not come back tell 3 the next morning and then do it all again. That is not an exaggeration. That's what they do.

Does anyone else get that? You'll be alright for ages and then all of a sudden for no apparent reason you just suddenly get struck down - like something has come down out of the sky and just hammered you into the ground? Some days I feel I just want to curl up and die.

All the time. I can be OK for ages and then for no reason BANG am feeling just like that. The past two days have been a bit like that for me.

Any way welcome here and I really hope to see you post moor here. You have a lot in comen with me all ready just from what I have read here.

Also am going to move this to the new members forum Sean's its your fist post. I think it well be better there

 

[Standalone Sentinel]

lol, I might have known you where from the UK with out me even having to look at your profile. Am from the UK as well. Where abouts you from in the UK mate.

I live near Birmingham - a city that has nothing for someone like me. Even their musical instrument shops are sub par.

 

[ckpeace]

Hi stand alone. I totally relate. The only diff. is that when I was a teen, cocaine was the "in thing" along with the drinking. I didn't want to get into that, but all my gf's did. We'd go out, they would use, then they would feel weird around me and always tried to push it on me. It didn't bother me but it bothered them.

I also like to have a good conversation with some substance. I can get deep if the situation calls for it but , I know enough not to get that way unless the other person wants to also. I can be funny and make small talk but it can feel empty if this is all it amounts to.

I also sing write songs. Maybe it's that we are artists? Do we care more? I don't know. But I can definitely relate.

 

[Bluey]

Hi stand alone. I totally relate. The only diff. is that when I was a teen, cocaine was the "in thing" along with the drinking. I didn't want to get into that, but all my gf's did. We'd go out, they would use, then they would feel weird around me and always tried to push it on me. It didn't bother me but it bothered them.

I also like to have a good conversation with some substance. I can get deep if the situation calls for it but , I know enough not to get that way unless the other person wants to also. I can be funny and make small talk but it can feel empty if this is all it amounts to.

I also sing write songs. Maybe it's that we are artists? Do we care more? I don't know. But I can definitely relate.

I was out with friends? the other week and my friend of 32 yeas of age has started doing cocaine. I don't understand it. He has everything. The job, GF nice place. Lots of debt as he has always been a big drinker but no moor. He had a right go at me cos he offed me 35 pounds worth of gear and he could not understand why I did not wont it. He only wonted me to Jone in to make him self feel leas guilty about what he is/was doing. Not that he would admit that. Not that I even bothered to menchen that. Some ppl are very stupid. I have always known this person all my life. I have always known him to be a selfish person but never that stupid. Goes to show you never know someone quite as well as you think.

I live near Birmingham - a city that has nothing for someone like me. Even their musical instrument shops are sub par.

I live near Birmingham, only about 70 miles. Am near Nottingham

 

[NeverMore]

Yep I know what you mean about feeling like you suddenly get struck down or put in a rut, not a good feeling hope you get out of it soon. I don't drink in bars either, doesn't matter if legal or not around here, everybody drinks, does feel isolating. your terrain projects looked very cool btw

 

[Standalone Sentinel]

your terrain projects looked very cool btw

Well thanks for looking at my website. I don't get that much traffic these days so I haven't updated it for ages. I made those terrain models in 2002 I think.

 

[Wishtobemyself]

Hi Standalone. Most of my best friends has flewn away too. It's so hard to understand, maybe they dont' want to be my friend anymore or maybe they got bored when hanging out with me. I just don't know why. I've seen your crying picture. Is that you with a long brunette hair?

 

[Standalone Sentinel]

Hi Standalone. Most of my best friends has flewn away too. It's so hard to understand, maybe they dont' want to be my friend anymore or maybe they got bored when hanging out with me. I just don't know why. I've seen your crying picture. Is that you with a long brunette hair?

Yeah that's my cartoon image. I made him on Yahoo. He was such a happy little chap last year but not at the mo. In real life I do look quite a lot like this character.

I clicked on the 'Online' tab and could see that you were reading my post. That's quite clever how you can see who's online and where they are on the site.

So what happened with your friends? My problem was that everyone else wanted to socialise in the pub whereas I wanted to socialise the way we always did. I developed diverse interests which, people have told me, are too technical for them to understand. It's like I'm from another planet or maybe I'm just a robot.