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hey guys, I guess from the thread title you can guess what I'm looking for here, but I'll try to keep it short.
Right, I've been single for a year now, after breaking up with my girlfriend of five years (it was a disaster) and I've been pretty consistently lonely since, with long instances of just feeling hopelessly lonely, thinking it will be like this forever etc.
however, a few weeks ago I came to university and have started meeting tonnes of new people, but there is this one girl in particular who I really really like already, after only a couple of weeks. We seemed to hit it off straight away and spent a lot of time together, etc
The only problem is, I don't think she's interested in me that way at all, cause she is one of these girls who has a great deal more male freinds than female, she really is just one of the lads, (for example she is in a band with 4 other blokes and stuff like that) so it's really hard to tell in this situation.
I spend just about all day every day with her, but also with another guy, who is a mutual friend, and it's weird because whenever we are alone together, she always wants to get together with him as well, and whenever they are alone, she is always ringing me up to get together with them.
basically what I'm trying to figure out is if she is either trying to:
play me and this other guy off against each other for some reason
or
if she genuinely just sees us both as friends
and I'm pretty worried that if I tell her how I feel it will scare her off completely and ruin what could be a really good friendship, but if I don't tell her, I will just sit there and fester, and its starting to get to me already...
sorry about the mega essay, but I'm just trying to make sense of the whole thing, and it would be great to get some impartial advice.
thanks
Right, I've been single for a year now, after breaking up with my girlfriend of five years (it was a disaster) and I've been pretty consistently lonely since, with long instances of just feeling hopelessly lonely, thinking it will be like this forever etc.
however, a few weeks ago I came to university and have started meeting tonnes of new people, but there is this one girl in particular who I really really like already, after only a couple of weeks. We seemed to hit it off straight away and spent a lot of time together, etc
The only problem is, I don't think she's interested in me that way at all, cause she is one of these girls who has a great deal more male freinds than female, she really is just one of the lads, (for example she is in a band with 4 other blokes and stuff like that) so it's really hard to tell in this situation.
I spend just about all day every day with her, but also with another guy, who is a mutual friend, and it's weird because whenever we are alone together, she always wants to get together with him as well, and whenever they are alone, she is always ringing me up to get together with them.
basically what I'm trying to figure out is if she is either trying to:
play me and this other guy off against each other for some reason
or
if she genuinely just sees us both as friends
and I'm pretty worried that if I tell her how I feel it will scare her off completely and ruin what could be a really good friendship, but if I don't tell her, I will just sit there and fester, and its starting to get to me already...
sorry about the mega essay, but I'm just trying to make sense of the whole thing, and it would be great to get some impartial advice.
thanks