LadyDaria
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So I have two pretty decent friends. However, like all friends, they have other friends. The problem... I often feel like I am not their #1 friend... and sometimes I get pretty sick of it.
Friend #1 Sara: Sara used to work with me. Now she only works in the same building. She is friends with my other co worker Tara. I hate Tara. Though I have to pretend like I don't to maintain the peace. Lately Sara has been attending lunch with Tara... ALL the TIME. Tara has made Sara part of her little group. I was aware she went to lunch with her from time to time but.. it seems they are growing closer etc. This really PISSES ME OFF. Tara is a horrible person and it makes me so angry that she seems to be more *interesting* than me. I have made it pretty clear I don't really want to hang with Tara but Sara seems to act like *I* am being childish and it is a rift that will blow over. I don't understand how Tara gets such a following. She is a BOSSY bitchy person who "knows all" but really doesn't.
Friend #2 Lina: lina works in my facility two times per year. It isn't her home base. So when she is there she is friendly with me. Recently she has been more friendly than usual. I was happy - until -- it became clear that she was having a fight with her bestie back where she normally works. So with her go to bestie, she had to resort to me. As usual.
I know... I am jealous... but I don't get why I am not #1. I think perhaps it is that I pretty much let people do what they want to. If you are friends with someone else... I am pretty accepting of it and others are not.. I just get frustrated... it seems in my own relationships I am not even liked the most.
Friend #1 Sara: Sara used to work with me. Now she only works in the same building. She is friends with my other co worker Tara. I hate Tara. Though I have to pretend like I don't to maintain the peace. Lately Sara has been attending lunch with Tara... ALL the TIME. Tara has made Sara part of her little group. I was aware she went to lunch with her from time to time but.. it seems they are growing closer etc. This really PISSES ME OFF. Tara is a horrible person and it makes me so angry that she seems to be more *interesting* than me. I have made it pretty clear I don't really want to hang with Tara but Sara seems to act like *I* am being childish and it is a rift that will blow over. I don't understand how Tara gets such a following. She is a BOSSY bitchy person who "knows all" but really doesn't.
Friend #2 Lina: lina works in my facility two times per year. It isn't her home base. So when she is there she is friendly with me. Recently she has been more friendly than usual. I was happy - until -- it became clear that she was having a fight with her bestie back where she normally works. So with her go to bestie, she had to resort to me. As usual.
I know... I am jealous... but I don't get why I am not #1. I think perhaps it is that I pretty much let people do what they want to. If you are friends with someone else... I am pretty accepting of it and others are not.. I just get frustrated... it seems in my own relationships I am not even liked the most.