kamya
Well-known member
OK. So in my experience, whenever someone decides to breakup with someone else they like to invent a lot of BS and lies about the actual reasons they don't want to be in a relationship anymore. Or they say something about what they want and contradict themselves by doing the opposite a few weeks later. Basically, they lie.
My problem is when I find out I've been lied to I can't help but point it out. This is usually either right away or a few weeks after the relationship is over. And when I do point it out and ask for the truth, they get mad at ME. Like it is my fault for pointing it out. And I still never get the truth out of them. They don't even feel like they did anything wrong.
At this point I don't even care about the person as a romantic partner or even a friend anymore. I just get obsessed with the fact that they were full of honeysuckle. And it really makes me angry. I start to resent the person and wish bad things for their future.
It makes me crazy thinking about all of the things that they probably lied about during the relationship that I never noticed. I just don't understand what is so hard about telling the truth. Especially when it comes to sensitive things like a breakup. It doesn't save anyone's feelings if they can easily find out that you're full of honeysuckle.
I'm always genuine and sincere and don't lie about things. Especially important things. I don't understand why people do it. It makes no sense to me. I know I shouldn't let it bother me when it happens but come on. WTF people?
So my question is. Have you ever lied to your partner about why you wanted to separate? Or lied to them about anything major in general? If so, why did you feel that was the best way to go about it? Do you regret it or do you feel that it was the right thing to do?
I know it isn't required for someone to give details about why things aren't working out for them. And it they want to split then they can. But its like tipping. You don't have to tip but if you don't you're an *******.
My problem is when I find out I've been lied to I can't help but point it out. This is usually either right away or a few weeks after the relationship is over. And when I do point it out and ask for the truth, they get mad at ME. Like it is my fault for pointing it out. And I still never get the truth out of them. They don't even feel like they did anything wrong.
At this point I don't even care about the person as a romantic partner or even a friend anymore. I just get obsessed with the fact that they were full of honeysuckle. And it really makes me angry. I start to resent the person and wish bad things for their future.
It makes me crazy thinking about all of the things that they probably lied about during the relationship that I never noticed. I just don't understand what is so hard about telling the truth. Especially when it comes to sensitive things like a breakup. It doesn't save anyone's feelings if they can easily find out that you're full of honeysuckle.
I'm always genuine and sincere and don't lie about things. Especially important things. I don't understand why people do it. It makes no sense to me. I know I shouldn't let it bother me when it happens but come on. WTF people?
So my question is. Have you ever lied to your partner about why you wanted to separate? Or lied to them about anything major in general? If so, why did you feel that was the best way to go about it? Do you regret it or do you feel that it was the right thing to do?
I know it isn't required for someone to give details about why things aren't working out for them. And it they want to split then they can. But its like tipping. You don't have to tip but if you don't you're an *******.