Hello and thank you For taking the time to read my post, I have been down recently and really just feel lost and I need help
Me and ex were together for three years, we broke up because I could not control my outbursts, I would snap and call her names and generally be an ******* even infront of her mates. Plenty of times we "broke up" but then throught grovelling she got back with me, however I always took it for granted and never sought help for mt problems. It came to a point were she couldnt take it anymore and now she has ended it.
Since the relationship has ended I have had councelling and been on many emotion handling courses, iv started going to the gym and iv taken up ice hockey. I know iv got problems but this time I'm truly working through them but now I feel like the noy who cried wolf.
When we were toghether we were amazing when things were going well and so many times she said something along the lines of "if you could be like this all the time it woukd be perfect".
Now, I feel like if I truly changed and my anger bursts stopped and I was a happy personal all the time, then she would want to be with me, why wouldny I think that when she has told me so many times, the problem is, I feel like she doesn't believe me now, and she won't get the chance to see those changes.
With valentines and her birthday coming up I wanted to get her gifts, I was going to make hr favourite cake and get a bottle of wine for her go have with her friends. And depending on how that went I would get her something big for her birthday, I want her to see that I am really a nice person and I love her to bits and that she is still really special to me.
She told me she kind of wants space and that she doesn't wanna get back with me, but I know her well and I feel there is something worth f fighting for because I know I can make her happy.
Do I carry on being nice and texting her and doing things for her? Can it really work for us? Do ex's ever get back together successfully? I love her so much and I feel so lost
Me and ex were together for three years, we broke up because I could not control my outbursts, I would snap and call her names and generally be an ******* even infront of her mates. Plenty of times we "broke up" but then throught grovelling she got back with me, however I always took it for granted and never sought help for mt problems. It came to a point were she couldnt take it anymore and now she has ended it.
Since the relationship has ended I have had councelling and been on many emotion handling courses, iv started going to the gym and iv taken up ice hockey. I know iv got problems but this time I'm truly working through them but now I feel like the noy who cried wolf.
When we were toghether we were amazing when things were going well and so many times she said something along the lines of "if you could be like this all the time it woukd be perfect".
Now, I feel like if I truly changed and my anger bursts stopped and I was a happy personal all the time, then she would want to be with me, why wouldny I think that when she has told me so many times, the problem is, I feel like she doesn't believe me now, and she won't get the chance to see those changes.
With valentines and her birthday coming up I wanted to get her gifts, I was going to make hr favourite cake and get a bottle of wine for her go have with her friends. And depending on how that went I would get her something big for her birthday, I want her to see that I am really a nice person and I love her to bits and that she is still really special to me.
She told me she kind of wants space and that she doesn't wanna get back with me, but I know her well and I feel there is something worth f fighting for because I know I can make her happy.
Do I carry on being nice and texting her and doing things for her? Can it really work for us? Do ex's ever get back together successfully? I love her so much and I feel so lost