Which should you be really aiming for. Should you be trying to date a girl or go on dates? How do you ask for either? I'm a highschooler so if you could think with that mindset I would be most thankful.
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Brian
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I think it's important as a highschooler to try and go on dates, and in the process try to find a girl to continue dating. This will let you adjust to what are effectively human courting rituals, and possibly have the chance to experience a somewhat deeper connection. Just don't get anyone pregnant, and treat girls with respect (but don't be a door mat).
I had neither opportunity when I was in high school, and now it'll be a lucky day that I ever get the chance.
I had neither opportunity when I was in high school, and now it'll be a lucky day that I ever get the chance.
high school is so kewl for dating. you dont even have to date... just ask them out. just write a note or ask them in the hall way. then you can hug and kiss at school, without ever having to buy them anything...
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Do whatever works for you.
Screw all the guilt, shame or vaule system others will get you to conform
to.
Dating more than just one person or just dating one person...
One is not better than the other. All relationships or life experince
you can learn from.
Just becuase you date one person dosn't mean you're not going
to run into communications problems and many other challenges.
Just becuase you date one person dosn't mean you will agree
with everything.
Just becuase you date different women at the sametime dosn't
mean the women are going to get mad...
Every decision you make will be the correct one for you.
Maybe try both...there's nothing wrong with that either.
Date lots of women at first then narrow down your field to whom you're more
compitable with and willing to take it to the next step of building a relationship.
It's all just a matter of personal CHIOCE.
I prefer to just love one person. Never the less I've dated 5-6 women
at the sametime before. I learned from all those experinces.
I was honest with those women. They were honest with me.
They knew what I was doing ..I knew what they were doing.
Just becuase I dated different women didn't neccessary ment
I had sex with all of them.
Dating and a relationship is not the samething.
An intimate relationship is not all just about sex.
Screw all the guilt, shame or vaule system others will get you to conform
to.
Dating more than just one person or just dating one person...
One is not better than the other. All relationships or life experince
you can learn from.
Just becuase you date one person dosn't mean you're not going
to run into communications problems and many other challenges.
Just becuase you date one person dosn't mean you will agree
with everything.
Just becuase you date different women at the sametime dosn't
mean the women are going to get mad...
Every decision you make will be the correct one for you.
Maybe try both...there's nothing wrong with that either.
Date lots of women at first then narrow down your field to whom you're more
compitable with and willing to take it to the next step of building a relationship.
It's all just a matter of personal CHIOCE.
I prefer to just love one person. Never the less I've dated 5-6 women
at the sametime before. I learned from all those experinces.
I was honest with those women. They were honest with me.
They knew what I was doing ..I knew what they were doing.
Just becuase I dated different women didn't neccessary ment
I had sex with all of them.
Dating and a relationship is not the samething.
An intimate relationship is not all just about sex.
VanillaCreme
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First mindset: School.
Last thing we need is another dumb teenager.
But on the dating thing, personally, I wouldn't be so worried over it. You have many years to do all that. However, being close to someone is nice. Although I never dated in high school, because no one wanted to date me, I did have a close friend or two.
Last thing we need is another dumb teenager.
But on the dating thing, personally, I wouldn't be so worried over it. You have many years to do all that. However, being close to someone is nice. Although I never dated in high school, because no one wanted to date me, I did have a close friend or two.
VanillaCreme
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That would be fine, if there weren't a bunch of dumb kids around... Baby having babies. It's socially acceptable to have a baby at 16/17. The cycle continues on.
Lonesome Crow
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My first GF was when I was 15-16. I didn't get her pregnant.
As a matter of fact I didn't even have sex with her.
We made out all the time too. She taught me how to kiss and make out
and stuff like that. She allow me to love and hold and it was okay.
She allow me to talk to a girl about my feelings and whatever we wanted
to talk about and it was okay...I cried when we broke up and it was okay.
She did too and it was okay. She called me for a couple of years after we
broke up on my Birthday or our anivery of when we met...it was okay too.
Some poeple say it was puppy love...maybe so.
Realisticly...how are you going learn how to have a relationship
if you don't have any kind of experince or practice?
Just becuase you turn 25 or 30 and might have sometype of foot hold in your
career dosn't mean you're going to know how to handle or be in a relationship.
Just becuase you make a crap load of money dosn't mean you're going to be happy...
I've made plenty of money and had great careers.
Money can't buy love.....so women say.
( I'm fucken waiting for a woman to SHOW ME if there's any truth to this. So far it's
been fucken lies to me. That's my experince and that's my truth )
Even in a career you have to start off at a lower possition if you don't have any experince.
Poeple get deviorce just the same if they got married at a young age or later in life just
the same.
Poeple in thier 30s-40s used their children as a yoyo in deviorces all the time.
How mature do you think these people are?
My duaghter might not be in my life or will ever accept me into her life...
I know this much..I didn't use her as bargining chip or a piece of property to be owned.
She's not confussed about that. I'm not confussed about that.
I love her very much even if it hurts like hell for her to not be in my life.
Poeple simply just don't grow up or mature just becuase they age. As if they know how to handle life just becuase they turn 25, 30, 40 or whatever.
Poeple don't mature just becuase they have an education or knowlege...
Maturity comes from practice and applications.
It's not that complicated. Most of us needed training wheels before we learned how to ride
a bike.
As a matter of fact I didn't even have sex with her.
We made out all the time too. She taught me how to kiss and make out
and stuff like that. She allow me to love and hold and it was okay.
She allow me to talk to a girl about my feelings and whatever we wanted
to talk about and it was okay...I cried when we broke up and it was okay.
She did too and it was okay. She called me for a couple of years after we
broke up on my Birthday or our anivery of when we met...it was okay too.
Some poeple say it was puppy love...maybe so.
Realisticly...how are you going learn how to have a relationship
if you don't have any kind of experince or practice?
Just becuase you turn 25 or 30 and might have sometype of foot hold in your
career dosn't mean you're going to know how to handle or be in a relationship.
Just becuase you make a crap load of money dosn't mean you're going to be happy...
I've made plenty of money and had great careers.
Money can't buy love.....so women say.
( I'm fucken waiting for a woman to SHOW ME if there's any truth to this. So far it's
been fucken lies to me. That's my experince and that's my truth )
Even in a career you have to start off at a lower possition if you don't have any experince.
Poeple get deviorce just the same if they got married at a young age or later in life just
the same.
Poeple in thier 30s-40s used their children as a yoyo in deviorces all the time.
How mature do you think these people are?
My duaghter might not be in my life or will ever accept me into her life...
I know this much..I didn't use her as bargining chip or a piece of property to be owned.
She's not confussed about that. I'm not confussed about that.
I love her very much even if it hurts like hell for her to not be in my life.
Poeple simply just don't grow up or mature just becuase they age. As if they know how to handle life just becuase they turn 25, 30, 40 or whatever.
Poeple don't mature just becuase they have an education or knowlege...
Maturity comes from practice and applications.
It's not that complicated. Most of us needed training wheels before we learned how to ride
a bike.
Naval_Fluff
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It sometimes goes like "Hey, there's a good movie coming out, wanna see it with me?" Easy as pie. But if you're already good friends with the girl you might just want to talk about it and and if you find out that you both like each other as more than friends kinda make a mutual decision. I knew my current girlfriend for about 2 months before I asked her out, so we never realy had to go on a 'date'. I just told her that I liked her as more than a friend and she felt the same way, so I just asked if she wanted to go out with me and then kablamo, we're dating..simple as that.
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Aedammair said:
hahhahaha...If you're anything like me, some girls will just come
to me or are attracted to guys like me....
I'm a musician, my hair was long, I wore rags on purpose becuase
it was slick hip and cool back when..bascailly I played in a metal band.
It wasn't like I was a chick magnet on anything...I only had a couple
of GF in HS but I knew others wanted to go out with me
When I was single in my late 20's I had to started dating.
Asking a girl out?..you basically just go and ask her.
There's no magic trick to it...you'll either do it or you won't.
She'll be either interested or she's not.
Try not to let her beautiful apprerance get to ya.
Keep it simple or keep the converstaion casual.
The more you talk to women the easier it'll get...they're just people.
The more relax you'll become. That's why it helps to have females
as friends also becuase you're comfortiable talking to the opposite
sex already...
it just takes practice like anything else...
Maybe you might get luckie the first time...maybe you won't.
Bottom line is you gotta try...even if a woman do ask you out...
you still have to try and be relax about it.
And keep on trying in more ways than you think.lol
Just be yourself and don't trip.
I've been shot down many times in more ways than one and not just pretaining to women.
You just gatta pick yourself back up somehow...whatever it takes. Try to keep and stay positive.
Well...when I figured out that I was my wife's BF.
It wasn't like i had to ask her if i was her bf...she was kissing me already.lol
yeah but I don't think you just walk up to a girl you can hardly breath around and say hey you wanna go out with me? I realise this is an extreme but I don't know what the moderate is. Thanks for the advice though dude. I already am confident around female friends but once a girl crosses the line between friend and crush I can't think around them. I have a couple "stalkers" but none of them are right for me. I think the girl I am crushin on likes me back but I really don't know how to approach it. I have limited contact with her. Like, I say hello passing her or smile but other than that I got nothin'. AAAGGHHH! 
I hate life
I hate life
Brian
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Aedammair said:
Step 1: Supress self-defeatist thoughts for a day.
Step 2: Feelin' good, today's the day; put on my Cool Face.
Step 3: Talk to girl; ask for phone number, invite to coffee, or something
Step 4:
"It was so funny, Tammy! He thought I might go out with him or something!"
"Haha, he looks like he's 16 or something! And he's goofy! I bet he still plays video games!"
"HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!"
Step 5: Sulk away, try again next year
Yeah. Something along those lines, usually. I recommend not using my methods.
