Lost Drifter said:
Arsenic Queen said:
How long does it take for a relationship to reveal reality? Weeks? A few months, at most? It's easy to pile up the exes in these conditions. 100? It's probably possible.
Its certainly possible, anything is, but after 100 partners I’d seriously question if that person has a grasp of reality or not. By all means make a mistake once, twice or even ten times but if you’re still making the same mistake after a hundred then you need to sit back and take a long hard think about things.
If we talk about casual sex, 100 can pile up quickly. For relationships, of course it's different, but still very possible indeed!
I never said that person or behaviour was normal. At 100 it's certainly pathological. But if your guy comes from a dysfunctional family where the dad is 99% absent except on huge "magic" events like Christmas and the likes.
And he still tries to recreate the same situation in his love life - his illusion being to create one that works and where everyone is happy - unlike him when he was young. So he keeps going for "love relationships" where he, or his partner, is absent most of the time and where the occasional, isolated moments spent together are treated like huge celebrations. For most people, love cannot sustain on that! Celebrations are great, but if there's empty forevers between each of them, they can't make up.
But as the mom did it, in his mind it means it exists and should be possible to create. In the case of my friend it is like that, and it can't be a conscious desire to get the maximum number, when things fall down he's a total wreck and cries like a little girl for days! He really can't realize his big dream of this ideal, part-time, ALWAYS magic relationship can't work.
Being rather absent in relationships and expecting them to be 100% happy and perfect is Disney-thinking brought to the next level, lol.