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the people that i know consider me to be a great listener and a good source of advice. for the most part, i think that they are right. i've been single for about two years now, and it hasnt' been easy on me. dating freaks me out. also, i am overweight and have a big nose, and i don't dress with the trends or anything so it is very hard to catch a lady's eye. people who get to know me like me in general, but getting them to want to get to know me is very hard. occasionally, i do get to know some new people, but it is mostly because they are having issues at the moment and need someone to talk to. since i have nothing better to do most of the time, i don't mind listening and lending some good advice when it is warranted. however, i've been finding that as soon as they are done dealing with whatever they are dealing with, or as soon as they find a new lover and/or have no more use for me, they cut all ties with me and no longer consider me to be a "good friend". i don't expect them to go out with me or anything, but it just hurts when one day you know all their secrets and then the next day they are giving you the cold shoulder as they prance around talking about how "in love" they are with whoever. do i expect too much from people?
someone once told me that i am cursed because i am too good at helping people to see their good qualities. because they don't have to "earn" it from me and it comes too easily, people take advantage of me and don't feel any want or need to reciprocate in even the tiniest way.
there has been three incidents like this that happened to me since i became single. what's happening is that on top of the loneliness of being single, i'm becoming extremely bitter towards people and it is becoming harder to be optimistic about anything. there are other things that are bothering me (and ultimately drove me to find this site - which i think is a great place), but this is one that i felt like writing about. i don't expect any advice or anything. i don't even think that i make any sense. but i just needed to get it out.
thanks for reading.
someone once told me that i am cursed because i am too good at helping people to see their good qualities. because they don't have to "earn" it from me and it comes too easily, people take advantage of me and don't feel any want or need to reciprocate in even the tiniest way.
there has been three incidents like this that happened to me since i became single. what's happening is that on top of the loneliness of being single, i'm becoming extremely bitter towards people and it is becoming harder to be optimistic about anything. there are other things that are bothering me (and ultimately drove me to find this site - which i think is a great place), but this is one that i felt like writing about. i don't expect any advice or anything. i don't even think that i make any sense. but i just needed to get it out.
thanks for reading.