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I tend to struggle to sleep I'm on medication that helps me that I was prescribed by my GP but it does nothing lol. Like, tonight I'll probably struggle to sleep šŸ˜“
 

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I tend to struggle to sleep I'm on medication that helps me that I was prescribed by my GP but it does nothing lol. Like, tonight I'll probably struggle to sleep šŸ˜“
I struggled for several years. Sometimes I'd sleep a measly hour to two. My trick was to find the most violent, physical job I could find and work like I have a deathwish, then pass out when I get home. Not for the faint of heart. But it does allow me to knock for sometimes more than 5 hours.
Medication will only get you so far, you have to make the rest of the trip by yourself and find ways that work. On the plus side, I look at least 10 years younger than I am.
Good luck, kid.
 

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I usually stay up doing whatever entertains me until I can't stay awake a second longer. Sometimes I barely make it to bed.

I'm not much on watching TV alone. I'd rather write. Computer games are okay but they just get me tense. Sometimes nothing works. I'm restless on a good day so going outside for a bit helps, then I start over.
 

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I tend to struggle to sleep I'm on medication that helps me that I was prescribed by my GP but it does nothing lol. Like, tonight I'll probably struggle to sleep šŸ˜“

I suffered badly with insomnia throughout my teenage/early 20s years and tried various medications with varying degrees of success and some unpleasant side effects. I'm just the opposite now as I can fall asleep way too easily. Feeling awake enough to get out of bed is now my main problem, as I very often don't want to face the day ahead and use sleep as a coping method.
 

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I've been taking these sleep patches called Deeps. They seem to work, but not every time. I get to sleep easily but always wake up early. Then I'm at 50% all day long and never get anything done.
 

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I've been taking these sleep patches called Deeps. They seem to work, but not every time. I get to sleep easily but always wake up early. Then I'm at 50% all day long and never get anything done.
Yeah I genuinely sleep or try to at night but end up having a 3-4 hour nap in the day which sucks
 

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Hay, we are all different so it might not work for you but it's my routine and seems to work for me. Routine is also the key I think, I tend to go to bed around the same time every night so my body has become used to it and expects to be going to sleep so to speak at a certain time. If you are going to bed at different times every night, it might not have a clue what it's meant to be doing. But then that may just be me. Give it a go and I hope you do find a routine that suites you. :)
 

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Hay, we are all different so it might not work for you but it's my routine and seems to work for me. Routine is also the key I think, I tend to go to bed around the same time every night so my body has become used to it and expects to be going to sleep so to speak at a certain time. If you are going to bed at different times every night, it might not have a clue what it's meant to be doing. But then that may just be me. Give it a go and I hope you do find a routine that suites you. :)
Aw thanks so much
 

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I have a heart murmur, arrhythmia, insomnia, and typically operate on 5 hours of sleep.
Granted, I'm really not doing anything besides going to work, coming home, going to get groceries, doing house work that's needed, and that's about it.
I'm sure if I had to climb the highest mountain that probably wouldn't happen on 5 hours.
Sometimes I'll get sleep, but not rest, because my stupid brain didn't fall into R.E.M. :cautious:
I hate when that happens, cause then I gotta go to work and tell my boss: "Ya gotta talk to me like a dumdum today, brain = mush. Didn't get any rest."
I do regularly nap after lunch/dinner, but I think that's just because my body is like:
"Holy honeysuckle nutrients! You see nothing! :ninja: "
I kinda push myself when I'm tired, and often don't realize how tired I actually am until I start catching myself doing stupid honeysuckle...
Like forgetting to put the phone back on the charger at work and accidentally taking it home. :rolleyes:
And I have a noticeably shorter memory from lack of sleep.
Actually the only enjoyable part about insomnia is that everything kind of feels like a hazy dream.
"You're not really asleep, but you're not really awake, either."

Nothing helps, really.
I mean, basically I need the stars to align among external forces I can't really control.
Cutting back on caffeine and switching to more water helps some.
Medication doesn't really work on me though, just makes me groggy and difficult to wake up the next day.
 

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Try exercise, go a gym a good few hours before. Only use your bed for sleep; don't lay in it to relax or during the daytime. Stay away from your phone, and watch/listen to relaxing sounds. Maybe some ASMR stuff.
 

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Two natural sources of melatonin are bananas and oatmeal. You can try them as an evening snack.

Melatonin serves a duel function. In daylight (or bright rooms) it stimulates cognition. At night (or darkness) it stimulates sleep functions. Someone said spend time in a dark room. Absolutely. But if you stare at a lighted screen it is the same as being in daylight. Maybe read (paper, not on screen) under a dim light, or meditate in the dark.

People are so keyed up from social anxieties all the time. We get hundreds of times the negative stimulation as what those of a hundred years ago did. By that standard we are always going and going.

Set aside the time to wind down in the evenings. Shut out the world. Listen to some soft music and allow yourself to consider pleasant things.

We weren't evolved for modern civilization. It has a negative impact on our lives. Set your evenings up to echo those before electric lights and mass communications. Let yourself chill in an environment where evolution expected us to be. Make it a routine, because your mind still expects all the noise of the world. You have to retrain it.
 

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Two natural sources of melatonin are bananas and oatmeal. You can try them as an evening snack.

Melatonin serves a duel function. In daylight (or bright rooms) it stimulates cognition. At night (or darkness) it stimulates sleep functions. Someone said spend time in a dark room. Absolutely. But if you stare at a lighted screen it is the same as being in daylight. Maybe read (paper, not on screen) under a dim light, or meditate in the dark.

People are so keyed up from social anxieties all the time. We get hundreds of times the negative stimulation as what those of a hundred years ago did. By that standard we are always going and going.

Set aside the time to wind down in the evenings. Shut out the world. Listen to some soft music and allow yourself to consider pleasant things.

We weren't evolved for modern civilization. It has a negative impact on our lives. Set your evenings up to echo those before electric lights and mass communications. Let yourself chill in an environment where evolution expected us to be. Make it a routine, because your mind still expects all the noise of the world. You have to retrain it.
I think routine and allowing yourself time to wind down is key for a good nights sleep. I broke this rule the other night and pretty much went straight from screen to bed, had an awful nights sleep.
 

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I have a heart murmur, arrhythmia, insomnia, and typically operate on 5 hours of sleep.
Granted, I'm really not doing anything besides going to work, coming home, going to get groceries, doing house work that's needed, and that's about it.
I'm sure if I had to climb the highest mountain that probably wouldn't happen on 5 hours.
Sometimes I'll get sleep, but not rest, because my stupid brain didn't fall into R.E.M. :cautious:
I hate when that happens, cause then I gotta go to work and tell my boss: "Ya gotta talk to me like a dumdum today, brain = mush. Didn't get any rest."
I do regularly nap after lunch/dinner, but I think that's just because my body is like:
"Holy honeysuckle nutrients! You see nothing! :ninja: "
I kinda push myself when I'm tired, and often don't realize how tired I actually am until I start catching myself doing stupid honeysuckle...
Like forgetting to put the phone back on the charger at work and accidentally taking it home. :rolleyes:
And I have a noticeably shorter memory from lack of sleep.
Actually the only enjoyable part about insomnia is that everything kind of feels like a hazy dream.
"You're not really asleep, but you're not really awake, either."

Nothing helps, really.
I mean, basically I need the stars to align among external forces I can't really control.
Cutting back on caffeine and switching to more water helps some.
Medication doesn't really work on me though, just makes me groggy and difficult to wake up the next day.
I'm sorry about all those conditions you have:(
 

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Some ppl find that having a cool room helps as well as blackout windows. Also some ppl use music to help them sleep.

When I have trouble sleeping I write down what's on my mind so I won't be so anxious.

Also if I'm going somewhere I check the weather the day before so I'm not worried about it. (I walk/ ride the bus.)
 

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Try exercise, go a gym a good few hours before. Only use your bed for sleep; don't lay in it to relax or during the daytime. Stay away from your phone, and watch/listen to relaxing sounds. Maybe some ASMR stuff.
Thank you, lovely!
 

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Two natural sources of melatonin are bananas and oatmeal. You can try them as an evening snack.

Melatonin serves a duel function. In daylight (or bright rooms) it stimulates cognition. At night (or darkness) it stimulates sleep functions. Someone said spend time in a dark room. Absolutely. But if you stare at a lighted screen it is the same as being in daylight. Maybe read (paper, not on screen) under a dim light, or meditate in the dark.

People are so keyed up from social anxieties all the time. We get hundreds of times the negative stimulation as what those of a hundred years ago did. By that standard we are always going and going.

Set aside the time to wind down in the evenings. Shut out the world. Listen to some soft music and allow yourself to consider pleasant things.

We weren't evolved for modern civilization. It has a negative impact on our lives. Set your evenings up to echo those before electric lights and mass communications. Let yourself chill in an environment where evolution expected us to be. Make it a routine, because your mind still expects all the noise of the world. You have to retrain it.
Exactly!! This is so true, thanks JšŸ„°šŸ„°šŸ„°šŸ„°šŸ„°!
 

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Some ppl find that having a cool room helps as well as blackout windows. Also some ppl use music to help them sleep.

When I have trouble sleeping I write down what's on my mind so I won't be so anxious.

Also if I'm going somewhere I check the weather the day before so I'm not worried about it. (I walk/ ride the bus.)
Thanks lovely!
 

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