Escort to Daughter

[Mazza]

I did state that I'm happy she's turned her life around- I begrudgingly give you some credit for that...

...but,

I'm still curious- if the roles were reversed, if it was your wife who did this...would you still consider it an act of...."charity" (for lack of a better word) or would you be deeply wounded and disgusted by the entire situation?

I think you know the answer which is why I must live with the guilt of what happened equally I would hope that I in reverse would not have to have my world and family torn apart for the selfish act of confession at times Ivd made my self ill over the guilt of what I did and If I could change things then i would have met her in a different way but realIy is I probable never would have I can't change the past only learn from it , I am however grateful that I have a daughter that is a wonderful person and a family that are truly generous lovely people to accept her in there lives

 

[Limlim]

Well at least you don't have to live with the consequences, those are generally a lot harder to deal with than guilt.

 

[perfanoff]

Give this guy a break. He said he has not had sex with his wife for a decade?

 

[9006]

So... I'm the only one who thinks this is kinda creepy?

What? I'm just saying what you're all thinking.

Yeah, I suppose it is, but like I said, I think people develop certain feelings for people you're intimate with, and something like this is bound to happen if not this situation, someone else's.

But as creepy as it is, I'm not so judgmental based on "normal" social life.

 

[Limlim]

Give this guy a break. He said he has not had sex with his wife for a decade?

Holy honeysuckle, I didn't read that!

Never mind I take it all back.

 

[WildernessWildChild]

Give this guy a break. He said he has not had sex with his wife for a decade?

Holy honeysuckle, I didn't read that!

Never mind I take it all back.

Funny the things people will say to strengthen their argument. Wonder what she'd have to say about it? Think about it people, if he's lying to everyone he knows in his life about how he and this girl have established a "father/daughter" relationship what would make you think he's going to be completely honest here?

Z E R O credibility!

 

[Limlim]

On the other hand there isn't really a lot of reason to lie on an internet forum to people who you will never see and interact with in real life.

 

[Mazza]

If I wanted to make myself out as some kinda hero I would have lied about sleeping with her !! And pretended I was some kind of saint but I never said I was !!

 

[EveWasFramed]

If I wanted to make myself out as some kinda hero I would have lied about sleeping with her !! And pretended I was some kind of saint but I never said I was !!

Well...it would have been kind of difficult to lie about it when you'd already made a thread about having sex with her a few months back.
Just sayin....

 

[Mazza]

Eve that's a fair point but I was simply saying if I had wanted people to believe I am some kinda white knight I would have made my self out to be a little more blameless ! I accept that it's odd and weird and all that those pointing fingers have said i don't defend my actions in the slightest
I certainly don't suggest it a good method of adoption! Or for those reading this at home to try it themselves simply that sometimes good things can come out of bad and in our case I believe that it has.

 

[Mazza]

Little update for everyone my daughter is having a baby with her partner and I have been asked to be a godparent as well as Grandad which I can't wait for ! For all those that have frowned up our relationship up your "bum" lol it's been the most amazing thing and has changed my life ! I am also now doing some voluntary youth worth for underprivileged kids as I found that helping people is where my heart and my strength is best pursued , I am studying for a formal qualification in open uni and I intend to make it a vocation , I have a good business so I am fortunate that I can afford the Time

 

[EveWasFramed]

For all those that have frowned up our relationship up your "bum"....

Sorry - just because she's having a baby doesn't mean that people are going to overlook your behavior. I doubt you will find that anyone who expressed an opinion of you (andyour behavior) in this thread, will change it.

 

[Mazza]

Oh well Im not that bothered what "you" think the point of the whole thread was to show people that there is human side and cost to escorting that most people never see past, I don't want crave your approval I've never asked or expected it , it's a shame though that people like you cant see the positive aspects and rejoice in the fact that her life is about as perfect as it can get at the minute

 

[Runciter]

Don't get me wrong, I'm happy that you've helped someone out but at what cost? If I found out that my father had paid for sex with my adopted sister back when she was a prostitute I would not be impressed.
Perhaps you should have invested the time and money you originally spent on your new daughter on sorting out your relationship with your wife and saving money for your kids.
It must feel nice to be able to help someone so much but there is an utter selfishness about letting that girl take your surname and bringing her into your family home.

I'd be the first person to tell you to ignore what people on forums tell you and live your own life doing what makes you happy but you posted the topic so you must have wanted our opinions and anything less than honesty would be pointless. So feel free to ignore us all but prepare yourself for some very awkward future conversations and make sure you understand that the possibility of you being disowned by your actual biological family will be no ones fault but your own.

 

[ladyforsaken]

Little update for everyone my daughter is having a baby with her partner and I have been asked to be a godparent as well as Grandad which I can't wait for !

Congratulations.

I am also now doing some voluntary youth worth for underprivileged kids as I found that helping people is where my heart and my strength is best pursued , I am studying for a formal qualification in open uni and I intend to make it a vocation , I have a good business so I am fortunate that I can afford the Time

Good luck.

 

[Mazza]

Thank you

 

[EveWasFramed]

*chuckles*

 

[Moe'sTavern]

Perhaps his wife should adopt a new "son".

 

[ladyforsaken]

Perhaps his wife should adopt a new "son".

Sounds taunting.

What he did may be frowned upon by many. But he came out to say that things changed. Yes although him putting up a thread about it would invite criticisms and such and he should've been prepared for it, I don't think it's for anyone to be judgemental about someone or taunt them when they've clearly moved on from the past.

Whether his story was real or not, let's give him the benefit of the doubt and take it that he's saying the truth, then I think not only did he change, but he also helped the girl get a better life.

Whatever goes on with his family or wife, if he realised his mistake then and is changing for the better, why put him down for trying?

 

[Locke]

What he did may be frowned upon by many. But he came out to say that things changed. Yes although him putting up a thread about it would invite criticisms and such and he should've been prepared for it, I don't think it's for anyone to be judgemental about someone or taunt them when they've clearly moved on from the past.

Whether his story was real or not, let's give him the benefit of the doubt and take it that he's saying the truth, then I think not only did he change, but he also helped the girl get a better life.

Whatever goes on with his family or wife, if he realised his mistake then and is changing for the better, why put him down for trying?

I agree. I don't like some of the things he has said or done either, but being mean isn't going to help.