RainyDaze
Active member
I ask myself this all the time... Why do I have such low self-esteem? I mean I guess I could bring it back to family and say it's genetic or I could say I didn't get told I was beautiful or anything as a child or something. But all of those are inaccurate... I mean people told me I was pretty, as far as I know self esteem is a learned trait, nurture not just nature.
The way I act now when people tell me I'm pretty, which doesn't happen often because I'm not the perfect little size 0 cheerleader girl with tight jeans and low cut shirts or whatever... When people tell me it now, I say thank you but I think in my mind, I don't really accept that as truth. I mean because everyone has their own opinions and stuff, you person could say I'm ugly as fresia and another could say I'm the most beautiful person in the world.
I know I don't need to focus so much on what everyone else thinks, I'm working on it, not quite sure what I need to do to tell myself, what they say doesn't really matter... Because these are people I'm around every day, I try not to care when they make fun of me or when they sit there and laugh at me but it's just hard.
I need some tips on improving low self esteem, I mean it's come up a lot since when I first started high school and then my dad left. But I want to feel good about myself and not be so easily swayed. I don't want the stupid people that go to my school and make fun of me to be that in control of my moods..
Basically I want some help in being happy with myself the way I am, not taking it personally when someone calls me a name, or when they give me criticism, I don't think I should get that upset about it.... You know?
Help, someone?
The way I act now when people tell me I'm pretty, which doesn't happen often because I'm not the perfect little size 0 cheerleader girl with tight jeans and low cut shirts or whatever... When people tell me it now, I say thank you but I think in my mind, I don't really accept that as truth. I mean because everyone has their own opinions and stuff, you person could say I'm ugly as fresia and another could say I'm the most beautiful person in the world.
I know I don't need to focus so much on what everyone else thinks, I'm working on it, not quite sure what I need to do to tell myself, what they say doesn't really matter... Because these are people I'm around every day, I try not to care when they make fun of me or when they sit there and laugh at me but it's just hard.
I need some tips on improving low self esteem, I mean it's come up a lot since when I first started high school and then my dad left. But I want to feel good about myself and not be so easily swayed. I don't want the stupid people that go to my school and make fun of me to be that in control of my moods..
Basically I want some help in being happy with myself the way I am, not taking it personally when someone calls me a name, or when they give me criticism, I don't think I should get that upset about it.... You know?
Help, someone?