JustJones
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You may have heard my story on this forum and possibly seen my progress in getting myself a girlfriend.
I longed for a relationship for as long as I can remember and now in the 25th year of my life, I've finally achieved my dream, but now I can feel my old demons coming back to haunt me.
I made the very stupid mistake of looking through my girlfriends notes on facebook and, although I already knew she had been through a spree of one night stands and short relationships, I've come to realise the extent of which it reached. She talks of loving going with whoever she pleases and not knowing where she'll wake up the next day. The thing is, she told me that she misses the "hunt", of crossing eyes with a stranger across a club or bar and the chase which follows.
Now, I've always despised that sort of lifestyle, never having experienced it myself, and the very thought that she has a lust for such things makes me sick to my stomach and its a very dark side of her that I would never have guessed existed as she's such a sweet girl and I hate to think of how many terrible men have abused her, and indeed the people she has abused, herself.
I'm now bubbling with paranoia and fear that she wants to break away from me or possibly even dabble in the lifestyle behind my back and its tearing me apart.. I don't know what to do.
I know in my heart that she wouldn't cheat on me but I am bruised inside and I cant help but fear the worst.
Should I ignore her past and pretend it doesn't exist? or am I doomed to end my happiness with her due to this terrible torture I'm putting myself through?
I longed for a relationship for as long as I can remember and now in the 25th year of my life, I've finally achieved my dream, but now I can feel my old demons coming back to haunt me.
I made the very stupid mistake of looking through my girlfriends notes on facebook and, although I already knew she had been through a spree of one night stands and short relationships, I've come to realise the extent of which it reached. She talks of loving going with whoever she pleases and not knowing where she'll wake up the next day. The thing is, she told me that she misses the "hunt", of crossing eyes with a stranger across a club or bar and the chase which follows.
Now, I've always despised that sort of lifestyle, never having experienced it myself, and the very thought that she has a lust for such things makes me sick to my stomach and its a very dark side of her that I would never have guessed existed as she's such a sweet girl and I hate to think of how many terrible men have abused her, and indeed the people she has abused, herself.
I'm now bubbling with paranoia and fear that she wants to break away from me or possibly even dabble in the lifestyle behind my back and its tearing me apart.. I don't know what to do.
I know in my heart that she wouldn't cheat on me but I am bruised inside and I cant help but fear the worst.
Should I ignore her past and pretend it doesn't exist? or am I doomed to end my happiness with her due to this terrible torture I'm putting myself through?