jimmusician
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Soooo I'm going to attempt (for a second time) to convey the problems that I feel. While my first thread was shut down by the postings of certain users (and some reactive comments of my own), I do feel perhaps I'm a bit more responsible for my lack of success than society is; but alas, society will not encourage positive change.
I feel, for a lack of better words, behind in life. Academically, yes, an education, college degree. Musically, yes, I'm pretty well versed, though against the usual grain.
Socially? Was always lacking. Kept the same friends that I had during high school all through out my college years. They've sort of moved on now. I started dating towards the end of my college years, with little to no success (getting what I actually want). I did, however, learn its an easy task for me to satisfy a woman, but hey, its not everything.
A typical girl I meet nowadays is about 22/23, 5'5, does prettymuch nothing (they can't identify anything they like other than music, movies, bowling, drinking), has about 14 piercings and 6 tattoos, smokes, and has at least 7 heavily sexual experiences with different guys ("all the way"). Has about 20 other intimidating guy friends she can see any day of the week..
I, on the other hand, am 6'1. I'll watch anything, I'll listen to anything, of course I have my own tastes, but I'll settle to get along with the other person. Zero piercings, zero tattoos, I'm a musician, but so far I have little claim to fame (other than I can play just about any instrument), not a smoker, and a couple light sexual experiences (oral). I have about zero girl friends that really want to hang, and a gay friend that I meet with every other week or so. Oh, and I do online dating. No, not plenty of fish, not ok cupid, those are dozens of girls that want to look at a single picture of you and shoot you down (because I've signed up to both of them but get no messages nor responses, but as of late, CRAIGSLIST.
I think in hindsight my parents probably knew I was either A: smart enough to defeat myself in my own social progress, or B: thought I was dumb enough that I should've just rushed through school (like I did, haha) and forgotten about making many friends along the way because they have none themselves, because I'm reading all I can to supplement a stimulus of growth.
When I do meet girls, they either have low confidence (like one that I'm meeting this weekend who is beautiful but thinks cuz a few ******** took her out on dates and didnt call back that she isnt), or they've....well, lets put it light: lost it. The one I'm talking to atm is starting to lose it with me even tho she assures me she likes me. idk.
does anyone have any help they can offer? Any light to shed? I'm at a point where I can't fix myself without the help of others.
I feel, for a lack of better words, behind in life. Academically, yes, an education, college degree. Musically, yes, I'm pretty well versed, though against the usual grain.
Socially? Was always lacking. Kept the same friends that I had during high school all through out my college years. They've sort of moved on now. I started dating towards the end of my college years, with little to no success (getting what I actually want). I did, however, learn its an easy task for me to satisfy a woman, but hey, its not everything.
A typical girl I meet nowadays is about 22/23, 5'5, does prettymuch nothing (they can't identify anything they like other than music, movies, bowling, drinking), has about 14 piercings and 6 tattoos, smokes, and has at least 7 heavily sexual experiences with different guys ("all the way"). Has about 20 other intimidating guy friends she can see any day of the week..
I, on the other hand, am 6'1. I'll watch anything, I'll listen to anything, of course I have my own tastes, but I'll settle to get along with the other person. Zero piercings, zero tattoos, I'm a musician, but so far I have little claim to fame (other than I can play just about any instrument), not a smoker, and a couple light sexual experiences (oral). I have about zero girl friends that really want to hang, and a gay friend that I meet with every other week or so. Oh, and I do online dating. No, not plenty of fish, not ok cupid, those are dozens of girls that want to look at a single picture of you and shoot you down (because I've signed up to both of them but get no messages nor responses, but as of late, CRAIGSLIST.
I think in hindsight my parents probably knew I was either A: smart enough to defeat myself in my own social progress, or B: thought I was dumb enough that I should've just rushed through school (like I did, haha) and forgotten about making many friends along the way because they have none themselves, because I'm reading all I can to supplement a stimulus of growth.
When I do meet girls, they either have low confidence (like one that I'm meeting this weekend who is beautiful but thinks cuz a few ******** took her out on dates and didnt call back that she isnt), or they've....well, lets put it light: lost it. The one I'm talking to atm is starting to lose it with me even tho she assures me she likes me. idk.
does anyone have any help they can offer? Any light to shed? I'm at a point where I can't fix myself without the help of others.