What to do?
I'm 33 and I have always felt inadequate basically about my penis, since the age of 16. It led to me I guess developing a bit of a complex about it, so now that thing where you cant get erections (i'm so ******* flustered right now) is in full effect.
A couple of years ago I finally crashed after I chased a girl whom I was smitten with, and a couple of times she came onto me heavily, and being disappointed. She chased other people from then, but still hung around trying to be a friend at least.
It hurts, so much. It used to be that I held onto a "moral code" of not doing hook-ups to avoid the situation. I've had 3 relationships that lasted 2-3 years, and on the saturday just gone my older sister and brother-in-law were really pushing me to go out and meet up with a clearly single and keen friend of hers. I had to just beg them to give it up when I was pushed on why I wouldn't, and blurt out "it doesn't work anymore. It just doesn't". Than I was asked if maybe I was gay, which I'm not, but it felt insulting that if a guy doesn't want to have sex with a girl than surely you must be gay. And if I was, would that have been the best step to try help someone admit it? She is just too blunt sometimes.
I have absolutely zero desire to talk to anyone in the real world in fear of the exact situation above happening, but I am wasting away in a pool of nothingness sitting in my room day in and day out.
Does anyone know what step I could take to... fix things? I can answer questions, thanks to the confidence that the anonymity that the internet provides (hopefully, and I am dead serious I hope to god this doesn't identify me).
Edit* I've been to a doctor about erectile disfunction (that's the name of it) and have used Cialis and Viagra previously. The fact still remained at the time that I felt inadequate to satisfy my partners, which ended up being true.
I'm 33 and I have always felt inadequate basically about my penis, since the age of 16. It led to me I guess developing a bit of a complex about it, so now that thing where you cant get erections (i'm so ******* flustered right now) is in full effect.
A couple of years ago I finally crashed after I chased a girl whom I was smitten with, and a couple of times she came onto me heavily, and being disappointed. She chased other people from then, but still hung around trying to be a friend at least.
It hurts, so much. It used to be that I held onto a "moral code" of not doing hook-ups to avoid the situation. I've had 3 relationships that lasted 2-3 years, and on the saturday just gone my older sister and brother-in-law were really pushing me to go out and meet up with a clearly single and keen friend of hers. I had to just beg them to give it up when I was pushed on why I wouldn't, and blurt out "it doesn't work anymore. It just doesn't". Than I was asked if maybe I was gay, which I'm not, but it felt insulting that if a guy doesn't want to have sex with a girl than surely you must be gay. And if I was, would that have been the best step to try help someone admit it? She is just too blunt sometimes.
I have absolutely zero desire to talk to anyone in the real world in fear of the exact situation above happening, but I am wasting away in a pool of nothingness sitting in my room day in and day out.
Does anyone know what step I could take to... fix things? I can answer questions, thanks to the confidence that the anonymity that the internet provides (hopefully, and I am dead serious I hope to god this doesn't identify me).
Edit* I've been to a doctor about erectile disfunction (that's the name of it) and have used Cialis and Viagra previously. The fact still remained at the time that I felt inadequate to satisfy my partners, which ended up being true.