Zhanna
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….and it actually look like a great place.
Hi everyone, thank you for reading my post. Loneliness is not something that you could easily tell in a person. On the outside I’m an Asian female, 51, living in California. look pretty good, I take care of my health, try to go to the gym, look stylish and put together, etc….also present as someone that others look up to at work, I’m a registered nurse and have been with the same hospital for 20 years. Finishing up a doctorate degree as nurse practitioner. You can’t guess by looking at me that I am lonely.
So why is that so? I’m an introvert and has had some family dysfunction in the past which did not help me at all. In my adult life I’d been busy living for others, caring for my mom and older brother, both have since died. So I withdrew further into work and school, forgetting to live my life and instead retreating further into my introversion when I’m not at work or school.
I’m pretty good at faking social skills in a group, but afterwards I am left drained and just want to be by myself or have someone or a couple of friends to just be myself with. Or reciprocally I am an empathetic person and good at providing comfort. Yet I’m not proactive about connecting with people around me that I know because I don’t think they “get” me. Does that make sense?
I have some work friends who are in their late 20s who think I’m younger and want me to go do things like bar hop and wine bars. Uh….no, thanks but that’s kind of never been my thing. I’m more of reading good nonfiction (biographies, history, science), knitting, sewing, cooking/ baking, DIY projects, and day hikes kind of person. I’m not a snob, I’ve been known to binge watch shows over a weekend while I lounge around in pajamas. Also trying to go back to volunteering as a cat rescuer.
So here I am, wanting to connect with genuine people who, same as myself, for one reason or another are lonely and in need of understanding without judgment. Looking forward to meeting people here. I’m very responsive and good at returning messages, definitely not a flakey or type.
Hi everyone, thank you for reading my post. Loneliness is not something that you could easily tell in a person. On the outside I’m an Asian female, 51, living in California. look pretty good, I take care of my health, try to go to the gym, look stylish and put together, etc….also present as someone that others look up to at work, I’m a registered nurse and have been with the same hospital for 20 years. Finishing up a doctorate degree as nurse practitioner. You can’t guess by looking at me that I am lonely.
So why is that so? I’m an introvert and has had some family dysfunction in the past which did not help me at all. In my adult life I’d been busy living for others, caring for my mom and older brother, both have since died. So I withdrew further into work and school, forgetting to live my life and instead retreating further into my introversion when I’m not at work or school.
I’m pretty good at faking social skills in a group, but afterwards I am left drained and just want to be by myself or have someone or a couple of friends to just be myself with. Or reciprocally I am an empathetic person and good at providing comfort. Yet I’m not proactive about connecting with people around me that I know because I don’t think they “get” me. Does that make sense?
I have some work friends who are in their late 20s who think I’m younger and want me to go do things like bar hop and wine bars. Uh….no, thanks but that’s kind of never been my thing. I’m more of reading good nonfiction (biographies, history, science), knitting, sewing, cooking/ baking, DIY projects, and day hikes kind of person. I’m not a snob, I’ve been known to binge watch shows over a weekend while I lounge around in pajamas. Also trying to go back to volunteering as a cat rescuer.
So here I am, wanting to connect with genuine people who, same as myself, for one reason or another are lonely and in need of understanding without judgment. Looking forward to meeting people here. I’m very responsive and good at returning messages, definitely not a flakey or type.