Hi all. 44 year old male from the uk here. The loneliness feeling was hitting me today (on my day off from work) and that's what brought me here. If I'm honest with you I have lots some good friends around me and a relatively comfortable life. It's mostly not having a partner or kids that I think makes me feel lonely at these times. I was with someone for 16 years and we were married for 6 of those years. When I met her she had already had children and didn't want any more (which I totally understand) so this is one of the reason we never had children together. I actually had a daughter too from a previous partner but our relationship broke down and I haven't seen her (not through the want of trying) for 7 years now. This is a constant sadness in my life (not seeing my daughter).
I think I may place too much emphasis on being with someone (a partner) but that's when I have been at my most happiest. I just don't have the sense of belonging anymore. It's great that I have free time and I do a lot of actives (outdoors etc). I meet with friends regularly but inevitably always end up back home alone and it's not long before this empty lonely feeling kicks in. Sometimes I'm really good at fighting it off but other times it's all consuming.
I used to have a good life and felt like I belonged when I was with my ex and her girls (I had a great relationship with the girls and still do).
Man don't get me started on the dating scene either. It can be soul destroying.
I do sometimes think what is the point in me being here and I have had all the thoughts that come with that. It's a bit sad as I feel I would be so much happier and less lonely with a partner. I read lots of advice about loving yourself but that is so much easier said than done.
Anyway. Having a very lonely day today so just thought I would share some of my thoughts on here.
Sometimes it's good to know your not the only person going through this
Peace and love all
I think I may place too much emphasis on being with someone (a partner) but that's when I have been at my most happiest. I just don't have the sense of belonging anymore. It's great that I have free time and I do a lot of actives (outdoors etc). I meet with friends regularly but inevitably always end up back home alone and it's not long before this empty lonely feeling kicks in. Sometimes I'm really good at fighting it off but other times it's all consuming.
I used to have a good life and felt like I belonged when I was with my ex and her girls (I had a great relationship with the girls and still do).
Man don't get me started on the dating scene either. It can be soul destroying.
I do sometimes think what is the point in me being here and I have had all the thoughts that come with that. It's a bit sad as I feel I would be so much happier and less lonely with a partner. I read lots of advice about loving yourself but that is so much easier said than done.
Anyway. Having a very lonely day today so just thought I would share some of my thoughts on here.
Sometimes it's good to know your not the only person going through this
Peace and love all