I am 20 years old and from Chicago. I have a lot of friends, but I am very shy around girls. My failures around girls has started to affect my life in a very negative way. I have always been a very optimistic person, but the past few months I have been anything but. I really like this girl at work, but for some reason I cannot ask her out. It's not that I don't want to, because I really do, it's that physically I cannot do it.