Hi. My name is James and I am 44 years old. I am here because I get very lonely at times and I want to share my story and concerns. I have an OK social life. I go ballroom dancing with my friends every week and hang out; but I don't have a special person in my life.
I was raised very sheltered by my mother; and I married the first girl I became involved with. That was a mistake. That lasted 6 years until I was 31. Since then I have had a total of only two relationship that lasted a grand total of less than 1 year combined.
At one time I was without a woman for 7 years. Then I had an off-on relationship for 5 months, and several interests after that but no girlfriend. Then I had a Japanese girlfriend for 2 months but the communication issues and life interests killed that relationship.
As much as I enjoy being in a relationship, I feel like I'm going to live the rest of my life alone or with these less-than-ideal relationships.
I am professionally successful. I own two houses, two cars and all my bills are paid. Everyone says I should have no problem having a girlfriend.
The problem is the people I meet are either too young or too old with issues that I can't handle.
It has come to a point that I am so lonely and need a woman's touch that I have started visiting Asian Massage parlors. I enjoy caressing and being caressed by a woman and have found one place in particular where a lady treats me just right.
I am not after sex, so that is not the issue. But I've run into an even more consuming problem. I know she is doing her 'job' and at first I thought she liked me more than just a customer. I don't think that is the case anymore so that is fine, but I have read up on these places and they are not only 'illegal' in some of the things they offer, but they also employ people who are being held against their will in this country.
So now I am worried about this girl thinking she can't do anything other than work here since she may be part of a sex trafficking trade.
My concerns aside, I am worried about her and how I can help her. If I don't I'll feel miserable. I want to tell her that if she wants to leave I can help her, but I'm not sure this is a good idea in any way. I'm willing purchase airline tickets (non-monetary refundable items) to help her.
I feel like I'm trying to 'fix' things but I do have a genuine concern here. Part of me says don't get involved and part of me says do something to help another person.
I'll still be lonely in the end but at least I would have helped someone in a really bad situation.
I was raised very sheltered by my mother; and I married the first girl I became involved with. That was a mistake. That lasted 6 years until I was 31. Since then I have had a total of only two relationship that lasted a grand total of less than 1 year combined.
At one time I was without a woman for 7 years. Then I had an off-on relationship for 5 months, and several interests after that but no girlfriend. Then I had a Japanese girlfriend for 2 months but the communication issues and life interests killed that relationship.
As much as I enjoy being in a relationship, I feel like I'm going to live the rest of my life alone or with these less-than-ideal relationships.
I am professionally successful. I own two houses, two cars and all my bills are paid. Everyone says I should have no problem having a girlfriend.
The problem is the people I meet are either too young or too old with issues that I can't handle.
It has come to a point that I am so lonely and need a woman's touch that I have started visiting Asian Massage parlors. I enjoy caressing and being caressed by a woman and have found one place in particular where a lady treats me just right.
I am not after sex, so that is not the issue. But I've run into an even more consuming problem. I know she is doing her 'job' and at first I thought she liked me more than just a customer. I don't think that is the case anymore so that is fine, but I have read up on these places and they are not only 'illegal' in some of the things they offer, but they also employ people who are being held against their will in this country.
So now I am worried about this girl thinking she can't do anything other than work here since she may be part of a sex trafficking trade.
My concerns aside, I am worried about her and how I can help her. If I don't I'll feel miserable. I want to tell her that if she wants to leave I can help her, but I'm not sure this is a good idea in any way. I'm willing purchase airline tickets (non-monetary refundable items) to help her.
I feel like I'm trying to 'fix' things but I do have a genuine concern here. Part of me says don't get involved and part of me says do something to help another person.
I'll still be lonely in the end but at least I would have helped someone in a really bad situation.
